Your Turn: “My 46-Year-Old Mother is Dating a 22-Year-Old!”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am 24-years-old my mother, who is now 46, divorced my father when I was 13, after years of dealing with his alcohol abuse, many physical altercations, and his refusing to take his medication or go to therapy for his bipolar disorder. My dad is currently serving time in prison. My mom has not dated anyone since they divorced. I live on my own, about a 40 minute drive away from the rest of my family, but both my brothers, aged 13 and 18, still live…

“Should I Give My Friend’s Parents a Gift?”

I (F20) have a friend (M20) whose parents fly out to visit him about twice a year. I’ve met them twice, and both times they have been wonderful. They’re your typical Midwestern parents and I feel like part of the family when I’m with them. They’ve invited me (and others in our friend group) to dinners, brunches, jazz concerts, and general nights on the town. I am well aware that they have spent quite a large sum of money on me at this point. And, of course, they refuse to take any money from me, the broke college student, to help pay for any of this. I know this isn’t an issue…

“I’m in Love with my Gay Best Friend!”

I’m in love with my gay best friend. He and I were very close and unfortunately I fell in love hard. We never messed around or anything but there was sexual tension on my behalf. We stopped talking because life got in the way and I can’t get over him. I told him I loved him and he hasn’t talked to me since. My friends think I’m crazy because I always get hit on but have no interest in other dudes. How do I move on? — In love with my Gay BFF   Maybe it’s safe for you to love your gay best friend because you know there’s no threat of…

“How Can We Make His Home Our Home?”

I moved in to my partner’s spacious apartment over a year ago. He is a sentimental collector and keeper of things (all things); he is an artist who enjoys and appreciates most everything and prefers the joy of an item leaving little interest in how a room flows or if its cohesive. He is also extremely passionate about his belongings and decor sense and takes great offense when they are not supported or understood. When the time came for us to move to a new place — one he would buy — I was thrilled because I assumed we would begin to compromise about decor. As the house hunt began we looked…

“Did He Just Want Me For Sex?”

I met a great guy who was in town for a grad school internship. He is from the Midwest and I am on the East Coast. For about a month and a half we had a whirlwind romance. However, I noticed he never told me much about himself, never really opened up. Now he is back in school in the Midwest and we are about 1,000 miles apart. Before he left, I told him I wanted to continue the relationship if he wanted to. He just put his head down and didn’t say anything. I asked him what airports are near him, and he told me. After he was home for a…

“Should I End My Long Distance Relationship?”

I am a 27-year-old East Coast woman in a very long distance relationship with a 34-year-old German man. We email back and forth at least twice a day, and talk for a long time on the phone or FaceTime at least five times as week. Prior to him, I had casually dated a handful of guys, and at one point had my heart broken by a close friend who ultimately decided he didn’t want me the way I wanted him. But other than that, I’ve pretty much always been genuinely happy flying solo. My boyfriend and I met within the last few months of him living in the US, and dated very…

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