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I dated a guy TWO years ago. He convinced me how much he was in love with me, I fell HARD then, you guessed it, a month later he left me high and dry. After talking to people and doing my research, I found out what a terrible, egotistical person he is and that he’s cheated on every girlfriend, blah blah blah. Here’s the problem: I CANNOT get over him. I think about him all day, everyday. I dream about him. I stalk him on social media. I stalk and Google his girlfriends. I compare myself to his girlfriends (he goes through a lot of girls). I haven’t had a relationship since…

I’m 21-years-old and have been dating my boyfriend for over three years. We started out LDR but after about a year and a half he moved in with me. So far it’s been great, we’re talking engagement and marriage, and life is going pretty well. However, I have an issue with his mother who’s bipolar disorder and refuses to take medication for it. She’s always been very sweet and nice, but only to my face. When she found out that boyfriend and I were living together, she flipped out on him and started a screaming match in a parking lot. He told me that she called me a harlot, and that as…

I’m 25, and getting married to the love of my life in six months. I was very close to my father but he passed away when I was in middle school. I decided quite some time ago that my cousin, Richard, would walk me down the aisle in place of my father. He has always acted as my big brother (I have no siblings) and has been there for me through good times and bad. When I asked him to perform this duty, he was so elated that he was near tears. My mother got remarried about a year and a half ago to a wonderful man after knowing him for six…

Once, a long long time ago, I went out with (okay lived with) a lovely psychopath for ten years. This guy is a total charmer — like really, really good. I recently heard he is now qualifying to be a therapist. When he was with me, he was a truly poisonous thing, creating deep and lasting damage. And although like all psychopaths he is very insightful, I have no confidence that he will ever act in favor of those he might help, and feel very anxious that he may abuse his position. It’s possible he may have grown up and tried to change, but when he was with me he was a…

Recently, my coworker who’s married with kids told me he has feelings for me. We’ve always been a part of a group at work of about five to six of us who hang out together, and we started talking a bit more last year, after he experienced a death in the family and I bought a little box of chocolates and wrote him a note saying how sorry I was for his loss. We never hung out on our own in or out of the office, though. We did sometimes stop by each other’s cubes for a little chat, and also sometimes talked over text messaging, which I do with a lot…

I’ve seen so many friends and acquaintances get back together with an ex shortly after their respective breakups and it has not once worked out. I believe if you can get to the point of breaking up, it should not be taken lightly and forgotten as soon as you miss either the person or the company, which we know are two different things altogether. Do you have specific thoughts on getting back with an ex? Or is it completely situational? I ask this because my most recent ex has been trying since we broke up months and months ago to get back together. But what keeps me grounded is thinking of what…