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I am a 20-year-old female, still living at home with my parents due to financial reasons. I do not have a boyfriend, but I have quite a few gay friends and deeply support gay rights. As a result, my father is convinced that I’m a lesbian. This isn’t the first time that someone has thought I’m a lesbian so normally I just laugh it off and move on. However, I live with my father and speak to him every day. Ever since he came to the conclusion that I must be gay — which he’s asked me about and I’ve outright denied — he analyzes and over-analyzes every single thing I do….

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I are getting married in just under nine weeks and it has become a massive struggle. We are paying loads of money for last-minute things (clearing the balance for the reception, the photographer, etc), which means we can’t go out or do anything spontaneous like order a pizza, which has been hugely stressful and depressing for both of us. We were both unemployed for a long time and started saving up for the wedding soon after we got jobs, so we didn’t really…

My fiancé and I have been together for one year. We live in different states and see each other an average of two weekends out of the month. In the beginning the sex was good and frequent with him initiating it and putting in most of the effort to please me. In more recent months the sex has begun to slow down and now it is completely non-existent. Meanwhile, our relationship remains strong, loving and affectionate (besides sex) and I am as sure as one can be that he is not cheating on me. Whenever I bring up the lack of sex to him he says that the stress of being unemployed…

My mother and I do not get along. She left when I was 3-years-old to pursue a career and her own life while I stayed behind with my grandparents. I would go visit her during the summer months as a child, but most of my memories involve being left alone while she went out, or being put on various diets and exercise regimens. I’m a 20 year-old college student now and as I’ve gotten older, the nit-picking at my body has morphed into other criticisms. She always believes I’m lying or hiding something when I’m telling the truth; if I become too sensitive on a given topic, she calls me a “bitch.”…

My boyfriend and I met two and a half years ago and began dating a few months later (he’s 40, I’m 25). He enlisted in the Army the month that we met with a 1-year contract. He went away for some training that June but apart from that we had a wonderful summer doing everything together. We began talking marriage that October. The day after we talked about marriage he got orders to leave in two weeks for some specialized training in Texas. I was excited for him and told him that I’d wait the 3-4 months and then we could start talking more seriously about when we’d like to plan for…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We’re silly together, the sex is good, and we’re a good team. I’ve never had jealousy issues in a relationship before, and tend to be the opposite of insecure-crazy; we watch porn together, talk about other girls (and guys) together, and have even had a threesome with another woman (which, believe it or not, was my idea). The problem is that over the course of the past four months, I have caught him speaking to other…

I am 25 years old and I have been with my fiancé for only six months. We immediately moved in with each other when we met as he was needing a surety (I know he sounds great already, doesn’t he?). He was caught with some bad people and he honestly was not really involved in what he was charged with (eventually the charges were dropped). He has a bad past but has his stuff together now, working a good job and we have a nice house we are renting. I had never lived with a guy ever so it was a new experience. In the beginning it was rocky; I think he…