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I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly four and a half years. We both know we want to get married, and he has talked to his parents about it as well. Although his family is strictly against us living together before we’re married, my parents are all for it. The problem is that I might finish college a semester or two after him, while he continues on to graduate school. I’d love to get married before he pursues his PhD, mostly because of the fact that if he moves states away, I’d love for his family to be okay with me tagging along. But he thinks I need to worry about…

I am a mother of a 14 month-old, and married for seven months to her dad. We didn’t live together until after we got married. In the seven months, we have had sex only 10 times, the last time being three months ago. Anytime I try to initiate it, he refuses and says that he’s tired, or that we’ll wake the baby and our live-in nanny, or that he’s just too stressed wondering how to provide for us. To add to this, he has never held a job, but does odd jobs now and then. I have a full time job that is physically and mentally exhausting, but not too exhausting to…

I’m 30 years old and I had my first and only boyfriend when I was 19. He and I had a good relationship, but we weren’t in love and I haven’t had a boyfriend since. My excuse is I used my twenties to go to college, work and become as successful as possible. I met a great guy in college who became one of my best friends, but he’s married now. I’m ready to get back into the swing of things and start dating again, but for some reason I compare men to him. He made me laugh, he was incredibly sweet, we were buds… Over the years, I’ve just met jerk…

There’s a guy I have been sorta dating for several weeks, but recently, things have changed between us because he’ll be gone for the rest of the year soon and he’s not ready to start anything with me now. After having strange symptoms for over a week, I went to a doctor which confirmed my suspicions that I was having a miscarriage. I never had a positive pregnancy test, because I probably took it too early. I was not looking to get pregnant at all, so I am obviously happy that I am not pregnant. But at the same time, I’m not sure what to feel about having a miscarriage. While this…

I’m 32 and have never had a girlfriend. I’m not a touchy-feely person, and this coupled with being really shy around women who I’m interested in, isn’t making my life easy. I’ve only been on about four dates since high school, and none of them worked out. I feel all I need is practice, but I get so nervous on a date, that rather than confronting my fears, I’ve been avoiding them. Even something as simple as kissing is foreign and scary for me, as I’ve never kissed a girl. The guy is supposed to take the lead, but this guy hasn’t got a clue! I was a big teenager, so I…

For clarity, I’m a lesbian but hate labels. With that said, I’m having trouble choosing between two women, both of whom I’ve dated before. I met ex #1 through work. She came on strong, and we had a very passionate relationship. I don’t think I have ever been that absorbed and given someone that much of myself before. But, after almost a year she decided we needed a break, which I took as an opportunity to meet new people. That’s when I met ex #2. We got together sort of knowing neither of us was in a place to commit to each other and we didn’t have any intentions to. However, we…