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My divorce is finally done nearly eight months from filing. We had to file bankruptcy, so it delayed the process. “Henry” and I were married 21 years. Always wanted a child, wasn’t able to conceive. After 18 years of marriage, we adopted a beautiful baby girl and brought her home from the hospital. It was an instant connection for me. She’s nearly four years old now and Henry doesn’t seem to have a true bond with her yet. He never helped me with her or with the housework or anything. He complained when I asked, so I quit asking. Our marriage consisted of barely any affection shown from him, no wild nights…

I’ve been living with my boyfriend for about two years now in our first apartment together, a small one-bedroom. I recently found out I’m pregnant. His mother and her boyfriend are in a bind and asked if they could they stay with us for 30 days. At first it was fine; we converted our living room into their room for that time due to the fact that we didn’t have furniture. It has been about four months now that they have been living with us and giving however much they want a month in payment. I want to get my home ready for my child and celebrate the holidays. Every time we…

I recently re-connected with my high school boyfriend and we started dating soon after. He lost his wife to her second round of cancer in January. He had been her caretaker for the majority of the three years before she passed. He said he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, traveling and all. He has two children who have been very judgmental about his dating me, due to their own grief. Right before his daughter got married and the day after what would have been his and his wife’s 30th anniversary, he stopped saying “I love you” and told me he was numb. My friends…

My husband is my “nesting partner” and we are ethical non-monogamists (polyamory). We have always been open about this with his parents, but my parents only found out about two years ago, right before my husband’s girlfriend gave birth to twins for me. I couldn’t have kids because, just as we got married, I was diagnosed with uterine cancer and then very shortly after had a hysterectomy. I still have the cancer, but it is controlled with chemo – meaning I’ve been in treatment for seven years and could be in for another twenty years or more. Cancer is a chronic condition for me – but, of course, there is always uncertainty…

I am asking for an idea, not bullshit. I have never been married. I don’t smoke or drink alcohol — both really stupid habits — and it’s hard to meet really DECENT women. I am over 45, but I won’t waste my time trying to date women my age. A friend suggested a particular dating app — well, its filled with losers!! I am financially very well-off. I like really polite women. Not many of them left either. So, dating expert: I would like to meet a woman who is really interesting, between 30 to 35 — someone with a life! I will pay to meet you in person if you can…

My husband, “Frank,” and I have been married a couple years, together for four. It’s a second marriage for each, with two teen kids each. One is off in college, so we have three now with us. After we got married, we didn’t immediately move in together as we were looking for a house, and often we had alternating custody schedules so we would go back and forth to each other’s homes. Sometimes we would have all the kids together, but not regularly. Then about six months later we found out that Frank’s company was transferring him back to his home country in Europe. So we postponed buying a home, but he…