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My boyfriend’s ex-wife left him to be independent and to find herself, but she now realizes that she cannot financially support herself without his help.”

“Last week, I saw a girl pop up on his phone, and I asked him if he talks to other people from the apps when he’s with me…”

“‘Vince’ and I have been together for 7 years and have known each other for 13. We have a solid relationship for the most part, except for one thing…”

“I was married for seven years. I married young, and am 29 now. My ex-husband is an addict who was on-and-off the wagon during our whole marriage…”

“Do you think it’s ok to want to have privacy and independence from my partner’s 21-year-old nephew who has lived with us since he was 14?”

He’s retired and loves to travel, but his partner is a single mom who still works full-time and can’t take more than a couple weeks off. He wonders whether they should break up.

They broke up because he wants kids and she doesn’t. Now he says he can live without kids and she’s wondering if she should get back together with him.

She brings food to her boyfriend’s home when she comes over, but he refuses to share. “Is he just weird?” she wonders….

In today’s three letters, I advise the LWs to listen to their gut – and listen when someone says he’s no longer feeling it.

I’m 45 and have been separated for several years. I have two kids from my previous marriage, and they’re 11 and 12 now and live with me every other week. Their dad and I co-parent amicably. I started dating fairly soon after our separation. I dated a lot of jerks, fakes, and assholes for a couple years. I was really looking for a long-term relationship, and last year I met an amazing man, G, on a dating app. He’s 49, super handsome, fit, intelligent, gentlemanly, and caring. G has also been divorced for a few years now and has two university-age kids who live with him. G and I see each other…