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I’ve been with my boyfriend, let’s call him “R,” for four years now. We met at university, which is in a small town, and dated for two years while we were studying. Then we both graduated (me with my undergrad in my chosen profession, him with his master’s), and I decided to move back to my home city to do a post-grad degree at another university. We broke up when I left, but R stayed in that town (it’s where he was raised and he’s never really lived anywhere else) getting research work with the university when he could but mostly just working as a server at a local cafe while staying…

I’m nineteen years old and have been dating the same guy for three years now. We lost our virginity to each other after eight months of being together. We ended up going to the same college (neither of us followed each other to the school but it was definitely a factor in choosing where each of us would go) and his Christianity has been growing significantly throughout our relationship. Last summer he helped me find my faith and within that I have been growing as well. Last October he decided he wanted to stop having sex and wait until marriage (which he thought would be with me). It took me half a…

I’m 34, my wife is 33. We’ve been together for four years and have been going through a really tricky patch starting nine months ago when my wife changed her mind about wanting children, and she also decided she no longer wanted to have a monogamous relationship. I’m not comfortable with either of those things – it seems as if our marriage might be ending. It started while I was in recovery from a chronic illness that I had been sick with for almost a year. I know the period of my being sick was very hard for her; I didn’t have a lot of time or energy for her, and I…

When my husband, Jack, and I brought our 8-month-old daughter to Jack’s home state to introduce the baby to extended family and friends, Jack’s brother, who lives a three-hour drive from where we would be staying, invited Jack (and only Jack) to come see him instead of driving in to see us. Jack turned down the invite because it would take up an entire day of our visit for him to drive there and back (alone). Plus, the whole reason we flew out there was so everyone could meet the new baby in person. We were only in town for a short amount of time and his brother knew months in advance…

I have an issue with my mother that is damaging our relationship to the point that I dread being around her. I recently moved back to the town where she lives to run my own business, and now I see her much more often than I did before. She has always been fairly bossy and controlling, but now she is constantly suggesting a “better” way (i.e. her way) to do things. She comments on everything from what I should/should not wear, how to run my business, what I should say to my customers, where I should live, what to buy, etc. I would consider what she said if it was valid or…