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My husband, “Lance,” and I have a 16-month-old daughter, and, since she was born, our marriage has been strained. From my perspective, he doesn’t want the responsibility that comes with being a husband and father. He is unreliable and a liar. He has his own interest at heart at all times. If something requires sacrifice on his part, he won’t do it. Recently, he moved out and says he wants a divorce. We’ll have to sell the home we own since neither of us can afford it on our own, and I don’t know whether I should stay in the town where we currently live or move closer to my family. Currently,…

I worked for a non-profit for more than four years and, though I liked the people I worked with and the job was flexible, my boss was a misogynist and bully, and multiple colleagues (male and female) left during my time there because he was unreasonable, insulting, and belittling. I left because of him, but I continue to work in the same line of work in the same part of the city. Before I left, I had to train my replacement. He had a similar personality as my boss but also didn’t want to do any work at all. He complained about responsibilities, buckling at the simplest tasks, and didn’t want to…

I was married for ten years in a relatively loveless relationship. She and I split up close to four years ago, and the divorce was final about a year ago. A few months back I decided to start dating again, so I joined a few online dating sites, and I went out on a few dates here and there. One of those was with “Mary,” and we hit it off very well. I’ve been seeing her quite a bit, but she and I had an understanding from the beginning that we were just dating and that both of us would probably see other people until we got to the point of wanting…

I have been in a relationship with an old high school friend, “Don,” for nearly two years now. We are both 47 years old, we have been separated from our estranged spouses for several years, and neither of us can afford to seek a divorce. Don’s wife took his son and his step-twins more than four years ago and moved out of state. The children are now 11 and 17, respectively. I left my husband a little over three years ago. My teenage daughter and I moved into Don’s house seven months ago. I was homeless. Don drives out of state every weekend to see his children and usually brings his son…

My younger sibling came out as a pansexual trans man a few years ago. My family took the news extremely well and has been supportive of him. He has saved up enough money to have his top surgery soon. I am torn between being there for him during his surgery and keeping my distance because of our tense relationship. There are multiple factors to our relationship. As an immigrant family, my parents relied on me to take care of my younger siblings. I became the “third parent” to my younger siblings. My family also sees me as the “successful” one while my brother is the “black sheep,” which leads to unfair comparisons…

About two months ago I met this guy online and we really hit it off. I have never felt about anyone else the way I feel for him, which is saying something, considering I have been in long-term relationships before. He wasn’t ready to be official, which I understood considering he was divorced less than a year ago and he had not wanted to get divorced. We had so much fun together, and we had about 15+ dates lined up. Sometimes he would just hold me in his arms, look at me, and smile. In moments like that, we didn’t need to talk. It was magical. Six days after our last date,…

I’m 47 and divorced within the last year from a man I met when I was 14. We married other people, divorced, ended up together eight years ago, and were married six years. I thought he was the love of my life, but the relationship became very toxic and, at times, verbally and physically abusive. I lost my mom two years ago and was so consumed in my grieving process that I let my thoughts about leaving my husband fall to the side. Fast forward a year to March of 2015 and an old friend whom I dated when I was 18 re-entered my life. I started an affair that my husband…