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My girlfriend is planning to have a boudoir photo shoot, and, ordinarily, I wouldn’t have trouble, but the guy who will be taking pictures of my semi-nude girlfriend slept with her before we met and that bothers me. Is it wrong to tell her that it bothers me? I know she really wants to do this for herself, but I want her to hear my concerns. Every time the subject comes up, our discussions just turn into all-out yelling fights, and I’m sick and tired. I stay calm, but she just goes so berserk that I don’t even know how to react to these situations. — Uncomfortable with Girlfriend’s Boudoir Photographer

I am 49 years old and and my fiancé is 36. I have three grown children, all from the same father, but I’m having a problem dealing with the existence of my fiancé’s 14-year-old daughter. My fiancé was 21 when she was born and signed the birth certificate for a child who wasn’t his, and now he has been ordered by the court to pay $650 a month in child support until she is 19. I don’t feel we can move on with our life because of this added responsibility. I am in love with him but resent this girl; I don’t want to see her or spend time with her. My…

“I am the youngest of four daughters and have recently had a falling out with one of my sisters. My three sisters all married successful men and they also had careers of their own.”

I am a young woman (24) who has been engaged for a few months and starting to plan my wedding. I’ve been friends with two girls, let’s call them Monica and Phoebe, since middle school. Over the years I always assumed these girls would both be bridesmaids in my wedding. However, lately, for about the last six months or so, Phoebe has become rather hard to contact. She rarely answers phone calls or texts, and she backs out of nearly every event at the last minute. I know she is busy with a serious boyfriend and a new job that is great for her future career, and I’m happy for her, but…

After around 10-12 years of two shitty relationships, I have bad trust issues. I went to many dark places and fought so hard to find out who I was again and what I wanted in life and to be able to try to trust someone again. On the verge of nearly giving up, I met my current boyfriend and things started really well, but now we have problems. A few months ago, during a conversation about the past, I asked him if his ex had any children from a previous relationship, to which he replied quite quickly with: “No, why would I get with someone who has a kid?” I told him…

I’m a 43-year-old independent woman with a good job. My husband of seven years just left me two months ago. I was sad for a bit but really bounced back and am having the time of my life! I’ve been dating, too. My ex and I never had kids — I was told I could not have a baby because I have fibroids. Hubby and I were okay with this, and it was likely good because he turned out to be physically abusive to me. But a year ago I really did want a baby. I prayed for one all the time and really tried hard. I had to grieve that I…