Long Distance Relationships - Dear Wendy

“Is it too Soon to Start a Long Distance Relationship?”

I met a great guy about six weeks ago and we began dating, exclusively, immediately. He’s 31 and I’m 25. Just when things couldn’t be going any better, I found out he will be headed overseas in February for work. He will be gone for about six months, possibly longer. For various reasons, it would be nearly impossible for me to visit and he is not allowed to come home. It’s practically a deployment. At the time he leaves, we will have been together for four months. Is it too soon to consider having a long distance relationship? We have discussed our options already and have decided to decide together at a…

“Should I End My Long Distance Relationship?”

I am a 27-year-old East Coast woman in a very long distance relationship with a 34-year-old German man. We email back and forth at least twice a day, and talk for a long time on the phone or FaceTime at least five times as week. Prior to him, I had casually dated a handful of guys, and at one point had my heart broken by a close friend who ultimately decided he didn’t want me the way I wanted him. But other than that, I’ve pretty much always been genuinely happy flying solo. My boyfriend and I met within the last few months of him living in the US, and dated very…

“Should I Start an LDR with A Guy Who Lives in Australia?”

“A little over a week ago, I was standing with a group of friends when a tall, well-dressed, very attractive man visiting from their native Australia walked over.”

“The Language Barrier is Killing our Relationship!”

My boyfriend and I have known each other for 2.5 years, have been dating for 2 years, and have been in an LDR for much of our relationship. He is European and lives in Europe, and I am American and live in the States. We are both in our last year of college and plan to begin a life together in one of our countries after we finish school. An exchange program allowed me to move to his city for a semester and we agreed that it would be best for me to live with him – not only would we save money, of which I have very little, but we’ve already…

“I Want to Marry my Long Distance Boyfriend, But He’s Not Sure”

“I’ve dated my current boyfriend for close to two years now – the first 14 months we were in college together, and for the last 8-9 months it’s been long distance…”

“How Can I Live Without Him??”

I met my boyfriend online two and a half years ago, and while we didn’t mean to develop real feelings for each other, we eventually did. I lived in Canada and he lived in Australia, so for the next year and a half we both worked and saved enough money to visit each other for a few months each. We met around five months ago when he first came to visit me, and by the time I went back to Australia with him I was extremely in love. He was my first boyfriend and even my first kiss, so I’m pretty attached to him. Initially, before we met up, he had told…

“Should I Marry Before I Move for Love?”

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost four years, all of them long distance (he’s in the Midwest, I’m east coast). We hit a really rough past last year that forced us to talk about our communication issues. I’ve also had to work through my commitment insecurities as well as dealing with my family and friends constantly dropping their two cents about why we haven’t “figured out where to live.” From the beginning, I’ve believed that I would be the one to move, because it would be easier for me to find work where he lives than vice-versa. This spring I made a decision to leave my current job in the fall…

“Should I Have an Long Distance Relationship or MOA?”

Should I have a long distance relationship or MOA? I’m 29 and I’ve been with my boyfriend for about eight months, and he is absolutely amazing. Not only are we a perfect fit for each other, but he always encourages me to do what’s best for me, even if it’s at an inconvenience for him – such a rare quality that not sure I’d easily find again! I can see myself marrying him at some point in the future, and I have no doubts that he would be a very considerate husband and awesome father. Even though he’s such a great guy and I do want to be with him, I am…

8 Tips For Transitioning out of a Long Distance Relationship

Transitioning from living far apart to living in the same place can be a little bumpy, but there are things you can do to ensure a smoother ride.

“Should I Move for My Career or Stay for Love?”

“I’m 25 and have been with my 29-year-old boyfriend for a year and a half. Over the last few months, things have gradually started to become more serious.”

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