Shortcuts

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. My husband and I have been married for eight years, together eleven, and we have a toddler. He works full time in law enforcement, and I am a stay-at-home mom working part-time as a lawyer. If it’s of any consequence here, though it’s not to me, I make almost as much as he does by working ten hours a week. I…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I’ve been in a relationship for six months and was just told a secret: my boyfriend is a brony. I really don’t mind. He doesn’t do weird stuff really. He doesn’t look up horrible things on the Internet, or dress like a pony and go to conventions, but he wants me to watch it. I’ve tried, but I can’t watch it…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I talked to a neighbor of nine years about a personal issue. He hugged and comforted me. Four months later he texted me and within two days we were hot-n-heavy sexting, which awoke a latent passion in me after twemty years of no sex. I sent him sexy pics of me and his focus is always on my breasts – tight…

Last year my husband mentioned that his mom would be having a party for his dad who is turning 60 in May. We live on the east coast and they live in the midwest, where my husband is from, a few hours from Chicago, where I’m from. We went back to Chicago this past November and saw his family for Thanksgiving, and I’ve had conversations with his mom and sister since and they’ve never brought up this party. Don’t you think it’s weird they have not mentioned it? I talked to my MIL last month when she called for my birthday, but she never said anything…. So my husband has just told…

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New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to…

Recently, I found out that my boyfriend, “Nick,” whom I’ve been living with for four months now, still keeps in touch with his ex-girlfriend, “Karen,” to find out how her two-year-old daughter, “Amy,” is doing. Nick and Karen had been dating for a while when Karen got pregnant. Nick believed the baby was his and was with Karen though her pregnancy and for a few months after Amy was born, until Nick’s sister became suspicious of Karen’s relationship with her ex and convinced Nick to have a paternity test done. It turned out that Amy wasn’t Nick’s biological daughter and that Karen had cheated on him with her ex. Nick tried to…

I was at a function a week ago where a much younger man was flirting with me — he waved and said hi, and I waved back. Then he leaned in to say hello, but I gave him no response and continued to talk with family. My boyfriend, who is very insecure after bad past relationships, can’t get over this. I have promised that, if this should happen again, I will kindly say, “I am flattered by your interest, but I have a boyfriend whom I love, so kindly stop.” I’m sorry I didn’t say that a week ago because I’m paying for it now. What can I do to move forward…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.