Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “College Sweetheart” whose letter appeared in a shortcuts column last year. She wrote: I’ve been dating a great guy for just over six months. We’re both college students, so we’re coming back from being long distance all summer. It was a challenge, but lots of Skype and texting made it work. We’re exclusive, but we haven’t defined what it is we’re doing. He’s met my parents, and a few of my friends but when we spend time…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Wishing for a Baby” who was feeling frustrated about not having yet gotten pregnant despite trying very hard. She wrote: “My husband bugs me about coffee and what I eat. He brings up what we could do in the “nursery” and when it is acceptable for boys to start playing football. We moved to a house with a great school district and own a big house that should have kids in it. But I don’t want to…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Bad At Keeping In Touch” who wondered if there was something wrong with her that she preferred being very close with family and a handful of nearby girl friends and let past friendships, like with her old sorority sisters, fall away. Keep reading to see whether she’s gotten more motivated to keep in touch.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Mama Drama” whose already-shakey relationship with her mother was further tested when her mom forged her signature on a refund check that was mistakenly sent to her house. Addie Pray answered her question about whether it was worth pressing charges. Keep reading to see how she decided to proceed and what their relationship is like now.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Not Enjoying The Silence” who was disappointed that her boyfriend of a year was uncomfortable discussing sex. “In the beginning I would tell him what felt good or what I’d like to try,’ she writes, “only to be met with uncomfortable silence. It’s not that he’s not open to those things (he definitely takes note of my requests), but the silence makes me feel dumb for talking about it.” Keep reading to see if things are still…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Seeking Tough Love” who wondered if she should give her abusive ex-boyfriend another chance and whether she should consider moving in with him in October. Keep reading to see where things are between them now.

  It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Cross Cultural Divide,” a woman from Belgium whose Croatian fiancé wanted her to spend her entire two-week vacation with his family in Croatia. She complained that his friends and family don’t try to speak English with her even though they can and that she works hard and would like to spend part of her vacation relaxing by herself or with her own friends. “But he’s really pushing the stay for two weeks together, even suggesting I…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “More than a Friend” who wondered whether it was a mistake to sleep with a guy she likes on the first date and to tell him he makes a great “FWB” even though she’d like to be more than just friends with benefits. Keep reading to see where things stand between them now.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “No longer Ecstatic” who wrote last month about her husband’s Ecstasy meltdown and the guilt she felt in hurting the relationship he had with his girlfriend (they have an open marriage). She wrote: “Several days after I found my husband by the toilet, I finally emailed her and told her that I was uncomfortable with their relationship […]. Things fell apart between Fred and this other woman after that. I have such a hard time not taking…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Bad Luck Dater” who wrote in last week about the guy who stopped responding to her even when she texted him to come over for sex. “I could possibly accept being friends,” she wrote, “but it’s the fact that his behavior went from being a really nice guy to being nonexistent that gives me pause.” After the jump, she defends her behavior … and explains the “knife” incident.