Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Disappointed in Her” who was disappointed that her good friend was refusing to tell her new boyfriend about her STD. “What can I do?” She asked. “Should I insist that my friend tell him? Should I get our other two close girlfriends to talk to her with me? She is very immature and I think she is trying to pretend like it isn’t a big deal (it is.) I’m upset that she sees it as…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Deployment Bound” who met an amazing guy but was leery of starting something with him because he was scheduled to leave for a year-long deployment in a dangerous combat zone in a couple of months. “I am wary of having a relationship with him right now, but I don’t want to miss out on something amazing.” After the jump, find out whether you decided to pursue the amazing guy or not.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Money or Love” who had recently started dating a longtime friend and was very concerned about his financial irresponsibility and amount of credit card debt he had. “Am I out of line for telling him he needs to be smarter with his money and cut back on his purchases? Should I let that come between what we have — an otherwise great friendship, great love, open and honest communication, and commitment?” After the jump, find…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Mr. Invisble” whose wife was neglecting their relationship and focusing solely on raising their children. Despite doing most of the household chores, as well as making lots of romantic gestures, the LW wrote: “Basically, I feel like the 5th or 6th item on her daily list and most days, she doesn’t get to me.” After the jump, find out if his wife is making him a bigger priority.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Second to Church,” who felt second place (at best) to her boyfriend’s job at his church. “I understand that his job is his passion, but when I attempt to make plans he is always busy or can’t commit 100%. Just this week he cancelled on our plans because he has a new church group.” She said she saw him at most once a week and wondered how to broach the topic of needing more of…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Water Under the Bridge” who was being considered for a dream job on the other side of the country where she’d working under a man she had a brief affair with years ago. “One’s relationship with one’s boss is a critical one and I have this nagging suspicion that he stills hold a torch for me, crazy as it sounds. If I am offered this job, is it reasonable to think that he can put…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Missing my Salvation,” whose boyfriend of four years — a man she’d known her entire life who had never shown signs of being abusive — beat her one evening during a heated argument. “I want to be mad, but I just cannot connect that the man who hurt me with the man who has loved me all these years. […] I have never felt such emotional pain like this before. My daughter misses him so…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Bitter Heart” who was upset that her recent ex-boyfriend, a guy she’d been with for five years, seemed to be gloating over his new girlfriend on Facebook. After the jump, her response to the advice she got from the His Take guys.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “The Friendly Ex” whose ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend requested to meet her since the two had remained friendly and social since their breakup. “I completely understand that she must be curious about me, and doesn’t like the idea that her boyfriend is friends with an ex, but I am completely dreading meeting her (mostly due to the negative way she’s been portrayed by Mike)! But if I don’t agree to meet her, Mike won’t be “allowed”…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “No Forgiveness for Father,” whose father left the family when she was four and tried to reconnect with her and her siblings after the sudden death of her mother two years ago. “I was so angry,” she wrote, “20 years later and he only contacts us because our mother died and he’s sorry for ‘our’ loss. I didn’t want anything to do with him. It’s been two years since then and all my siblings have…