Your Turn

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I went to the beach this weekend and hooked up with a guy whom I later found out, through some Facebook stalking, to be married with a young child. We met at a bar and he wasn’t wearing a ring. We didn’t actually have sex but special handshakes were given by both parties. I also found his wife’s Facebook and I’m wondering if it’s my duty/responsibility to tell her that her husband is a slimy excuse for a man? Unintentional Other Woman

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter — a classic question if there ever was one — without commentary from me: Let me start by saying that I am categorically against the idea of my…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have recently begun my adventures as a sexually active young woman. I have only had sex once in a “friends with benefits” situation a few weeks ago — something which I very much enjoyed. I look forward to seeing this man again, and certainly having another satisfying experience. However, I have been feeling anxiety lately. The guy I am sleeping with is very experienced, and I am… not. He knows this, and was extremely accommodating the last time (and first time) I had sex. However,…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am 25-years-old and I prefer the company of… myself. I’ve always been an introvert; however, that’s not to say I don’t have friends. My problem is that while I have a proclivity to be alone, I have friends that – to me – are needy, but to the rest of the world, are probably normal. I naturally don’t hang out much and there are times when I go into total reclusion. This hermetic bout includes me going hours/days without contact with anyone else. I’m aware…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m writing for a little advice about my best pal of the last 10 years who just turned 30, has a demanding job in entertainment, and has been married (for 3 years) to her longtime love. She has struggled with anxiety for the last 4 years or so, and is a very holistic type of person (she hates taking any types of pills, let alone something such as anti-anxiety medication that isn’t herbal.) She’s an incredibly smart person, her husband is very supportive and she has…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been with my boyfriend “Allen” for over a year and a half now and were good friends for a few years before we began dating. We have a pretty content relationship except for the fact that I get jealous of the…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: How can I get my wife to get out of her own head and live in the moment with me? We have been married for 7 years and have a 3 and 1 year-old. Mostly, our lives are happy but lately I’ve been frustrated with her inability to step out of her mom-centered managerial mindset and focus on our relationship. Basically, I feel like the 5th or 6th item on her daily list and most days, she doesn’t get to me. It’s not just sex, though…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 24 years old and I have a boyfriend of four years. We’ve had our ups and downs through the years as many couples do — I’ve caught him cheating but was dumb enough to keep believing he’d change. I’m currently unhappy with my relationship because I’m the sole bread-winner and my boyfriend lacks ambition. He doesn’t work, is verbally disrespectful towards me, and jealous because I lack trust for him. I have recently developed feelings for my supervisor at work, who flirts with me all…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 28-years-old and six months ago I started dating a wonderful man. He’s 27, and treats me with more respect and kindness than all of my other exes combined. I am incredibly happy. I knew him socially before we began dating, so I was aware of his painful shyness. It took him several months to muster up the courage to ask me out, and I happily accepted. We had been dating for nearly a month, and in that time he had yet to try to kiss…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: “John” and I met almost six months ago, but only decided to be in an exclusive relationship after four months of dating, right before…