Your Turn

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been seeing a guy for seven months now. He is a nice guy — probably the nicest guy I ever dated — very caring, respectful and treats me like a lady (brings me flowers unexpectedly, watches horror movies even though he…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m a 24-year-old woman who’s pretty intelligent and have NEVER (yes, never) had any sort of romantic encounter. No sex, no date, no boyfriend, no kiss, no drunken make-out session, no hand-holding — not even a meaningful/sexual/appreciative hug. Nothing. It bothers me quite a bit, more so now than ever. I talk about sex all the time, more than I would like, out of exasperation and desperation. A girl has her needs! I feel so left behind – and I’ve been trying to figure out why…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I are in our mid-20s and have been together for over a year. We love each other more than anything and have been discussing spending the rest of our lives together. We do everything together whether our friends are along or not and rarely drink. However, one night about three months ago when I had to work the next day, he went out and drank with one of his friends. They knew the bartender where they were and he gave them many free…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been with my boyfriend for ten months and it was perfect at first — a few arguments here and there which normal — but we’ve been having problems for the last three weeks. He was diagnosed with cancer six months ago. Since I live in Canada and he moved to the US for his treatment, our arguments increased due to the distance issue. However, he would always accommodate me and would come see me here and there and, of course, we talked on the…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 20 and started dating a former co-worker about five months ago. At first he seemed to have his life together for a 25-year-old. He had his BA, two jobs, and had a lot of other things going for him. Naturally, the beginning was and continues to be amazing, although there have been HUGE bumps in the road. There are some trust issues, but he has been a lot of firsts for me, so it’s harder for me to let go. He has been there during…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am a 27 year old female and have been dating a 30 year old man for 1 1/2 years. He is kind, thoughtful, attractive, smart, treats me well and I am in love with him. But…(isn’t there always a but?) he is unable to say he loves me or sees a future, not just for me, but for himself. He is not sure if he ever wants to get married or have children, which was once upon a time his “childhood dream.” This could be…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I was with my ex-boyfriend for three years, and in my time with him, I was happier than I’ve ever been. However, the relationship ended when he went out one night for a friend’s birthday, got really drunk, and hooked up with another girl. He called me and told me what he did the next day, and I told him I never wanted to talk to him again. We didn’t speak at all for a few months, and then, we gradually reestablished contact. He quit drinking…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m in college and have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years. Overall, our relationship is great: we have a lot of fun, love each other, are about to move in together, and look forward to our future with one another. However, neither of us has many friends, so we rely on each other for comfort/companionship on a daily basis (though I do hope and feel that this will change soon). Sine my boyfriend doesn’t really have any “bros” or male-type friends he can talk…