Your Turn

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am 25-years-old and I prefer the company of… myself. I’ve always been an introvert; however, that’s not to say I don’t have friends. My problem is that while I have a proclivity to be alone, I have friends that – to me – are needy, but to the rest of the world, are probably normal. I naturally don’t hang out much and there are times when I go into total reclusion. This hermetic bout includes me going hours/days without contact with anyone else. I’m aware…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m writing for a little advice about my best pal of the last 10 years who just turned 30, has a demanding job in entertainment, and has been married (for 3 years) to her longtime love. She has struggled with anxiety for the last 4 years or so, and is a very holistic type of person (she hates taking any types of pills, let alone something such as anti-anxiety medication that isn’t herbal.) She’s an incredibly smart person, her husband is very supportive and she has…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been with my boyfriend “Allen” for over a year and a half now and were good friends for a few years before we began dating. We have a pretty content relationship except for the fact that I get jealous of the…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: How can I get my wife to get out of her own head and live in the moment with me? We have been married for 7 years and have a 3 and 1 year-old. Mostly, our lives are happy but lately I’ve been frustrated with her inability to step out of her mom-centered managerial mindset and focus on our relationship. Basically, I feel like the 5th or 6th item on her daily list and most days, she doesn’t get to me. It’s not just sex, though…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 24 years old and I have a boyfriend of four years. We’ve had our ups and downs through the years as many couples do — I’ve caught him cheating but was dumb enough to keep believing he’d change. I’m currently unhappy with my relationship because I’m the sole bread-winner and my boyfriend lacks ambition. He doesn’t work, is verbally disrespectful towards me, and jealous because I lack trust for him. I have recently developed feelings for my supervisor at work, who flirts with me all…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: “John” and I met almost six months ago, but only decided to be in an exclusive relationship after four months of dating, right before…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, and I feel as though we are getting very close and he could be a person I could see myself spending the rest of my life with. On our first date we were talking about our families, siblings, etc. He told me at the time that he was an only child. Then a couple dates later we were sitting around and he apologized for lying on our first date and told me in fact that he…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I got divorced three years ago from my verbally abusive ex-husband. He isn’t verbally abusive anymore and we remain friends to this day, but he has 70% custody of our children. Now, I am not a bad mother; the court did not give him custody, we agreed that he would have custody since at the time, and still now, he has a better-paying job, a great support system, and he really is a good father. He’s in the military and we’ve been in a city 2000…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 20 years old and live with my 20-year-old boyfriend and his family. I live no more than three miles away from my family’s house, yet I miss them terribly. I moved in with my boyfriend a year ago because I loved him and wanted to experience a more grown-up life. I was 18 and the time and was, like, “OK, let’s move in without telling my mom.” I just left when she wasn’t home which hit her really hard. Since moving in with my boyfriend,…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m at my wit’s end with my roommate and her boyfriend. On her own, she is a good roommate, but the problem is, she is NEVER on her own! He is always here — he sleeps over, hangs out for several hours, eats (food that he bought to keep in our fridge that I’m paying the power bill for), leaves for like an hour tops, comes back, eats lunch, hangs out, leaves for an hour, comes back, eats…you see the cycle. He also uses our shower…