Longtime lurker here, with my first comment:) I actually went on a fantastic first date on Tuesday with this guy “B”, which was much needed after recently getting dumped by a toxic ex of 1.5 years. B is so funny and sweet, and drop-dead gorgeous. On Sunday he’s going to meet up with me and my friends at a local music festival. So, I’m cautiously excited about this one! But like you Veritek, B and I are pretty different with regard to politics so hopefully that’s not a huge deal.

Well, I can chime in!

Ironic that this thread was started today when…I was just kind of blown off – flaked out on is a better word, I think – by a guy I’ve been out with 7 or so times now. He’s a hippie artist guy and while I feel like I’m totally too square for him (I work in an office, drive a Corolla, own a townhouse, etc) he keeps asking me out. He’s different and interesting and it feel exciting and a little rebellious for me to date him so that’s why I’ve kept saying yes. Plus, he’s really cute in that late 30’s hippie painter/writer kind of way, know what I mean?

However, he’s totally flaky – at least, he has been this week. We’ve seen each other once a week since the beginning of June but this week he’s now flaked out on me like 3 times, though he keeps saying he wants to see me. Tonight, we were supposed to get together but he texted me 45 minutes after we had talked about meeting saying he just woke up from a nap. Sooooo…now it’s supposed to be Sunday. I’m trying not to hold my breath.

I also have a first date with a guy I met a few years ago at church (this was back in my more conservative days – the church was a conservative denomination, but I matched with this guy on Tinder of all places, haha) tomorrow night. He seems sweet but a bit over-eager. I guess we’ll see how we go.

All this is happening in the midst of the fact that I actually really like a new-ish coworker who I’ve known for 3 months – and I think he like(d) me too – but he apparently realized we liked each other about a week and a half ago and stopped talking to me. Like, full stop iced me out because “we have to be professional”. Even though we did nothing unprofessional and just clicked really well. So now I’ve lost someone who was really close to me who I had a lot of fun with and I have to see him every single day and we’re on the same small team and UGH. (I thought about writing Wendy about it but to be honest there’s nothing really to be done, which sucks.)

I swear, we can put a man on the moon and grow seedless watermelon but we can’t control who we develop feelings for; what’s up with that?

I was looking forward to reading more exciting stories about people’s dates!

@TheLadyE – good luck and have fun with the dates, sounds quite promising! 🙂

@veritek33 hope things with the attorney work out well, I think it’s better when the physical stuff happens more slowly, because you can actually truly get to know each other well and have fun in other ways before moving to the next level. Good luck 🙂
I, on the other hand, seem to have the opposite “problem”. No awesome dates here. Everyone my age (early twenties) and circle seem to be solely interested in casual sex. Hence why I haven’t been asked on an actual “date”, only received interest from guys I’ve just met who are looking for some fun. And these are guys I do NOT meet in clubs/bars/online, by the way.. All of this is quite ironic because I’m one of the few girls around who is not into the whole casual sex/one night stand/FWB thing.
And I found that men who are principally interested in being in a relationship, are already in one (good for them, seeing happy couples makes me happy). 🙂

If I ever get asked on a date I will contribute to this thread in a more meaningful (and positive) way, fingers crossed. 🙂

Well, I’ve gone on some bad dates lately, does that count?
I’d much rather not date at all if the dates I’ve had so far are all that’s out there for me right now. I’m not bothered though- yet.
I’m glad you’re having fun Veritek!!!