DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Veritek, why DID you buy that house? What did it represent to you? What did you envision in your head when you thought about making a move from your previous house to this one? What did it mean to you?
@anonymousse, yes – that’s it. It’s lonely. I mean, I’m a big girl I can handle being alone, I just get lonely – which I absolutely agree is no reason to stay with someone or date someone that is a bad fit just for companionship.
@Kate that’s a good question. I don’t know. I mean, it’s a house I’ve walked past for years and just loved. To me I guess it meant a step up. It’s a much bigger (by no means huge, just bigger than my last 700sft house), better built and frankly nicer house than my first. It has more room and the potential to grow a family. My last house was just too tiny to imagine having a partner and children in. And frankly I’ve worked hard to be able to afford this house and move to a nicer, safer neighborhood. This house just mean more possibilities than the last one, I suppose.Ok, so, possibilities.. For a bigger, more expansive life? I really think, start setting up for that right now. Don’t live the same life you were living in your old house.
I’ve only recently entered into the this moji world and now the guy is too. We send the most ridiculous things to one another. It’s fun though.
It freaks me out how much Kate’s bitmoji looks like her in real life. Down to the little curl in her hair.
I know ktfran has mentioned meetup before but if you have one in your area just give it a try. That is how I met about 3/4 of my friends when I moved. I never would have joined a book club or done half the new things here I have without meetup.
@Moneypenny, you said “I really just do not feel excited about dating anyone. It may be that the matches I’m seeing online are just starting to blur together. Maybe online just isn’t the best venue for me to meet people. I realized today that if I stopped and took a break, I’d feel relieved! It feels like a chore. I *know* what it’s like to have chemistry with someone and to feel excited about going on a date. And I’m just not feeling it!” This is how I felt – I had gotten out of a 6 month long lukewarm relationship where I didn’t spend much time with the guy and I knew it wasn’t serious. I got back on OKCupid and was disappointed to see the same people as before, and was just feeling down about online dating. And when I was online dating, I was rarely excited about the person I was going to meet up with! About 2 months later I got together with my boyfriend. My first date with him I was so excited for, since we had hiked together a few times and I knew what he was like. I did meet one ex through Match, so I know online dating can work, but I think it was not the best fit for me either. So keep your eye out elsewhere 🙂
@jlyfsh I have tried meetup and unfortunately in my town it’s just not a thing. Most of the groups I’ve seen are for moms or sports specific things. That’s not to say there won’t be other meetups I could join down the road.
Yeah, I totally agree with @Anonymousse… being on your own can be lonely. And that can be awful sometimes, especially when a lot of your friends are coupled up. (though one of my favourite things as a single person was being invited to dinner at a couple’s house!)
But I think two things:
1) Nothing worth doing is easy. There’s a reason why it’s tough and getting yourself in ‘good working order’ isn’t going to be a walk in the park but it’s for the rest of your life, right? Six to twelve months is nothing, when you consider how much it can benefit you for the rest of your life.
2) Well, I forgot point two already. But! @Kate’s totally right too, build the life that you want and when the right guy comes along he can fit nicely into what you’ve got.
I really hope it all works out for you.
