DW Community Catch-up Thread
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It’s not that you’re “not worth the distance” or undateable or whatever the bitch in your head is trying to tell you. It’s that he was not looking for anything serious in the first place, and pretty soon he could see you were. You’re on different pages. But this isn’t about you not being good enough.
Yep, agree with Kate. This wasn’t a match — that’s all. Any distance is too much when all you want is something super casual and the other person wants something more. Don’t let this be some measure of your self-worth. That’s the worst thing you can do.
Oh you’re right, I didn’t mean to imply that. I just meant that I wasn’t worth the drive to HIM. For someone else it might not be a big deal at all. So, a little disappointed but already moving on. My very sweet grandparents visited this weekend and bought me a new dishwasher so I call the weekend pretty good in the end .
I am sorry thatvit went down that way, you have to understand it was all just a casual hook up or two of Tinder. I understand a relationship can develop over time off of Tinder , initially the app is a hook up app. Don’t let any guy tell you different as I have brought this thread (and shown) this thread to a barber shop full of 20 men and all agreed. It was not you, the drive etc , it was clear it was just casual to him. Moving on is good, but a dishwasher doesn’t do Netflix and chill to well.
I’m sorry nickel and veritek for not awesome dates, but I am glad at least, ver, that you have that certainty and he didn’t ghost or something.
K, I am a bit amused that you brought this thread to your barbershop, jimmyjam.
I have a crush! Alright, it is way too early even to call it a crush, but I found a single guy I’ve sort of talked to attractive for the first time in a long time. It was my friend’s wedding yesterday – small city hall wedding, 20ish people, really lovely crowd. The guy was one of the groom’s friends. I didn’t catch his name, nor did we really talk one on one but we all had a fun group chat by the end of wedding/reception, like the 8 remaining. Ugh, he was just really hot! I know he’s single because we all talked about dating etc. I… probably could ask my friend the bride about him — this is the first time in my life I’ve had close girlfriends with whom I talk about guys and relationships, although I don’t know what I’d say except I thought one her husband’s friends was cute last night and…?
This thread is so fascinating to you, you bring it up and show it to 20 men at a barbershop? That’s pretty funny. Why is it so interesting to you?
I’ve actually had a fair amount of friends of both sexes find long term partners on tinder. I thought it was for mainly hookups, but I’d say the majority of people I know using it are looking for long term love, not hookups. But it takes all kinds, jimmyjam.
Actually my barber was asking me what I was reading as I was getting my hair cut, so I shows him, next thing you know we were all talking about it. What you ladies think you can have all the fun. Trust me the barber shop is where it gets real with no filters.
Veritek don’t be so down on yourself. This was likely never going to be more to him. It would have been nice if he made that clear from the get-go, but don’t think it was YOU. it just wasn’t the right fit.
Jimmyjam is giving us a male’s perspective and one which I think is valid. Sure there are some guys on tinder looking for more, hence those of us with stories of friends finding long term love on there. However, I think there are still many, many guys out there using tinder JUST for hooking up. He’s entitled to think that and not get attacked for it. I think he’s just trying to give us all the other viewpoint. And not for nothing but, he read the situation with TT correctly.
I love the barber shop thing! Aw, now I want a dating dilemma for the barber shop crew to give me advice on! Sadly, I’m too busy and focussed on getting my new career together to attend to my love life. Boo.
I just think it’s funny that he’s been openly complaining about this thread a few pages back and how Veritek should stop commenting until she’s really going on an awesome date, but it’s obvious he’s as into this thread as anyone else is.
And he said a blanket statement that all men just want hookups off tinder, I just said not all do.
haha the salon the barber shop, all the same, a place for men and women to gossip and swap stories. It’s the equivalent to DW hehe
As much as jimmyjam can be a bit harsh at times, it is nice to have a males perspective and see another side.
And ver I am so sorry it ended 🙁 Better to have someone anyways who is willing to literally go the distance for you!
I think what he said was that’s what most go on there looking for. Which for all we know could be true, but over time the hook ups have developed into more. Your relationship with your husband started as an FWB situation which is a similar scenario to what he’s describing.
