Thanks for the insight, Stone. Like I said, it’s fascinating to me. And the desire to explore connections without limitations makes complete sense to me.

Stone, I’m glad you’re having such a good time exploring this new relationship! It is fun to have those feelings and your view is extremely interesting. I like reading about it.

Ver, good for you for CrossFit. I need to start a new class. And get back into yoga. Damn new boyfriend.

Money, yay! I hope he gets a hold of you soon for date #2. I would have done the same and texted that I had a good time. Don’t worry too much about the age. I’ve dated a couple guys quite a bit younger. I never worried about it.

Lianne, I love that your pregnant self keeps up with and comments on the dating thread!!!!

@Lianne absolutely! I really like talking about poly because I feel like the more I ramble on about it, the better I understand it myself.

@Money hooray! That sounds like an amazing date. I’m feeling a little weird that Physicist is a couple years younger than I am (I’ve just never seriously dated anyone younger than I am), but I don’t think it actually matters that much if you find that you click.

@ktfran Yeah it’s really nice to be excited about someone again. I went on so many first dates that I just felt super ‘meh’ about, and I was getting really burned out on the ‘Sorry, I’m not feeling it, best of luck’ conversations. And I seriously feel like I’ve hit the jackpot with this guy. Obviously it’s still sparkly and new so there’s not a lot of realism involved yet, but he seems like a combination of everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner.

Haha @ktfran I love it! In some ways I live vicariously through you all and in others, I feel like I have been there so why not chime in to say, hey this was my experience. Watch out!

No new dates to report right now, but I was supposed to go out with a 25 year old (what the heck? Did I spray Millennial Man Attraction Potion all over myself on my 33rd birthday??) today, but he rescheduled about 2 hours beforehand for next Friday. So that’s fine. He seems a little flaky but we’ve been texting (at his request) for almost a week and he seems to at least have his life together a little bit. I have very low expectations but it might be nice.

I am getting into yoga too, actually! I have some Very Aggressive Fitness Goals this year…which I promptly ruined by doing about 50 squats on Wednesday night and not being able to walk since.

Interestingly…the Salesman (who I hooked up with over Christmas) and I have been keeping in touch since he went back to LA. We’ve been emailing and we’re friends on Facebook so we interact there, and then on Thursday he called me in the middle of the workday because he was offered 2 very different jobs (he’s been looking) and like, literally wanted me to tell him which one to take. I mean, we’ve talked a lot so I know him pretty well but obviously I couldn’t make that decision. I ended up talking to him for about 40 minutes holed up in an empty conference room at work and he seemed to really appreciate it. He flirted a lot with me then too. So interesting! And we also talked about me visiting him in LA which I for sure want to do this year.

My attitude toward men is really lax right now actually. I feel like I’ve been concentrating on finding a life partner for so long that it’s exhausting; plus, I’m in the works to possibly be making a big move here in the next 12-18 months or so (a lifelong dream that the Salesman really encouraged me to do because if not now, when? And he’s right.). It’s taken a lot of the pressure off, although I do feel a little strange about it. The idea of “just having fun” rather than seriously dating is weird, but maybe it’ll be good for me.

Thank you Anonymousse! 🙂 Yes, the Salesman & I had a great connection and it really lifted my spirits.

Actually, ironically enough I just got a promotion at work, but the move I’m talking about would be a literal move across the country. My dream is to write television – particularly sitcoms. I know, it’s an impossible dream, but I’ve always wanted to do it. I have a Master’s degree in screenwriting, actually. Where I am now (NC) was supposed to be a temporary stop but it kind of turned into a longer term thing – I’ve been here 8 years – but I’ve been bored for awhile, probably a couple of years, here, and to be honest I’ve felt a bit stuck.

When I met the Salesman and told him about my dreams, he challenged me. He was like “What, are you just going to live here the rest of your life? Retire here? Never try?” and also said “If ONLY you knew someone to show you around LA…hmmm.” Haha. I mean, I’ve been there before but the trip was brief and not all that great.

It won’t happen this year and to be honest I’m not even sure when it would, because I can’t move to LA without a job, but my goal is to use this year to pad my resume (I’m a sales trainer) and also write some spec scripts…and then visit the Salesman in LA to see if I could realistically see myself there. And see him, of course. 🙂

When I told my mom about the idea at Christmas she said “I knew this day would come.” I’m almost afraid to be excited about it right now since it’s so early but it’s really given me a lot of hope and something to work towards!

Sorry to hijack the dating thread, everyone!