DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Wow, @Stone. That really sucks. I go back to my previous comment where I said it seems like he really doesn’t mind the poly experience when it’s him with the second partner, but he really can’t handle it when it’s you. And the fact that he’s not your main partner anymore makes this that much more perplexing. It’s like he wants to be in an open relationship with you, with no strings attached, but you need to be devoted to him.
Yeah.. :-/
I think he’s trying to own his feelings, and I feel like he recognizes them as somewhat unreasonable. I’m just hoping that he gets them in check soon. This is basically our second consecutive day together where I’ve spent the entire time comforting him.
Thanks guys.
And @stone that sounds really exhausting. Like, really tiring. Are you happy with this arrangement?
@Ver I will be once he calms down a little. It was pretty exhausting, but he seemed to be doing a lot better when I saw him last night, and agreed that he’d like to try meeting Physicist again
Update: I have a date tonight with (funny enough) another army guy from OkCupid. We just started talking yesterday, funny, good sense of humor and of course – a ginger. (I try to stray from my type, but what can I say?) We are meeting at a sports bar tonight for a drink and to play fooseball. I think it should be fun!
My closest work friend and I went out last night, and my FWB came out too. We stayed until last call. Whoops.
But my only meeting today got cancelled! And this weekend my friends and I are dressing up and going out.
I’m really excited for tomorrow. Physicist is taking me to a really nice looking Italian place for dinner and then to see the CO symphony orchestra, which gives me an excellent excuse to dress up, and then we are spending the rest of the weekend together, which should be nice. Planning to go ice skating, and maybe do some karaoke, and binge watch some Star Trek.
Related: I am still totally smitten
Date updates! So I had three guys I went out with this week (I know crazy but I have a control problem). So there is Mixed guy, Slogan guy and Angel guy (Nicknames my friend and I developed).
So Sunday was Mixed guy, we had talked a fair bit before the date, facetimed and talked on the phone. Flirted a bit and enjoyed our talks overall. I unfortunately was a bit late to the date (pool) due to weather related stuff (snow storm). However the night went well, we played a few rounds, had dinner and talked a bit. Most of the night we were just jabbing each other and making jokes about our game, and I got in some questions about him to learn more. But he didn’t reciprocate much with questions, which I like answering and asking. So that part of the date was just meh. I was hoping to learn more after just having casual easy going conversations beforehand. Left around 10:30/11 I think, walked me to my truck and gave me a bear hug and a kiss.
Monday was Angel guy, I wasn’t sure about him going in, we talked a bit before hand online, then spontaneously decided to get together and just see how it went. Ended up going really well! We went to a local British pub nearby on the water in TO, very pretty! He lives in a condo nearby so a short walk. He is very sarcastic, funny, intelligent and intuitive as well. We talked about everything, serious and casual, both learned about each other. Then after some beer and nachos we grabbed a hot drink, then he invited me up to his apartment to see the view, because he showed me a picture from the summer and it looks really great! So we go up, look outside, and then decide to sit down and chat some more. Witty banter and learn more about what he likes to do and how he enjoys surrounding himself with lots of friends. Finally at 11PM I need to go and he gets up and we end up kissing and having a short but very sweet make out. Very difficult to pull away from it! So overall a good night, I have plans to see him Sunday to do a walk near his place then go back to his apartment and watch a movie. I am excited to see him again and learn more and see if we are more compatible.
And finally last night. Slogan guy is a copywriter in TO, and we have talked quite a bit since we arranged the date, flirted a bunch, and general get to know you stuff. We did two rounds of mini putt, and got a few kisses in around the dark corners of the mini putt place (it’s glow in the dark). Had quite a bit to talk about, learned more about his family and situation (parents are divorced and he lives at his grandmothers home with his mom, sister and uncle). Then we grab dessert nearby and talk more about our dating experiences and expectations. And at 10PM we talk back to our cars and we kiss again, and we both decide to go to his car and we have a two hour long hot make out session. SO MUCH FUN. He is so adorable and cute personality wise, very handsome (his pics don’t do him justice), and seems to know what he wants and has a lot of similar interests as me. Anyways, that was a great night, we had lots of fun. We have tentative plans to see Monster Trucks in TO Saturday after I am done work. So looking forward to that. He asked me before our date if I wanted to go, but said I wanted to wait till after last night and decide. But he bought the tickets anyways just in case 😛
So now, I am planning on turning down Mixed guy, and going on the second dates with Slogan and Angel to hopefully figure out which one I want to continue with.
