I’m fairly certain, jimmyjamm, that you are the same troll that tried to tell me I didn’t really like this guy because I was sad leaving his apartment one day after we first started dating, which if you have read and comprehended my post, was the furthest thing from the truth. As is what you’re saying now. Also, if you read and comprehended what I wrote recently, you will know that he didn’t show up drunk. We were IMing and he forgot a conversation. Not nearly the dire picture you painted. Also, he is ALWAYS invited to my house, as I am to his.

I didn’t know things had to be peaches and cream 100% of the time for something to work out. We had our first real disagreement/hiccup/whatever you want to call it and talked through it and worked it out. We also had quite a lovely weekend spent away.

We’re learning about each other and that’s really what the beginning stages of a relationship is about.

However, I suspect you’ll come back here and say we’re doomed. I won’t engage any further.

Thanks @jlyfsh. We’re pretty drama free, besides two misunderstandings, and we worked through both. On Saturday, we talked about it more and he’s happy I told him what’s wrong and he said it’s bound to happen if we’re in it for the long haul, and that is what we both want. He’s pretty great.

@shake – that’s such a scary and also great feeling to have. I wish you luck with this guy!

@cleo – ooh, it sounds like you had a great time. I like your dating stories… and you narrowing the third dates down to one guy. Also a great position to be in and I wish you luck too!

I’ve had some meltdowns. I know what it feels like. I don’t think you probably need to worry here, KTFran. I would just think about whether, if you melt down on a guy rather than just tell him what you’re thinking, are you on as secure footing in the relationship as you should be? In your case I know you have some walls up and maybe the feeling of being vulnerable at all is so uncomfortable that it can lead to emotional overload. You do want to be careful about melting down too much, and maybe work more on trusting that you can come out and say how you’re feeling. Trust HIM I mean, that he can handle it.

I’m really not worried. I think we did an excellent job of talking through it and making one another feel safe. And really, my meltdown was probably pretty tame compared to what people are thinking. We talked about why I was upset/closed off that day. I cried into his shoulder for a few minutes. We talked some more. There was no yelling or anger. It was pretty productive. And we had a fantastic weekend.

I thought ktfran had already hit the 6 month mark? Maybe not 6 months of “officially” in a relationship, but at least dating for 6 months?

I’ve been seeing my FWB for 5 months, and I thought that started after ktfran and her guy. Speaking of which, my friends LOVE my FWB. My friend’s fiance even texted me yesterday to tell me how much he liked the guy. My friends have never liked any guy I’ve introduced them too. (Well they used to like one, but he rejected my friend when she tried to sleep with him and she is still pissy about it). I think it’s cool that they like him, but I’m also annoyed they are so into this guy that I’ve told them is just a casual thing with no future. I told my FWB, and he said it reminded him of the episode of Friends where Monica finally introduces a guy to the group and they’re obsessed with him (“a gallon of Alan”).

I also have no caffeine and am struggling today. I wish I was off.

@stone, that sounds like a wonderful date night! He sounds like a really sweet guy. Yayyy!

@ktfran I doubt it would become more. He’s fun to spend time with and the sex is good, but I don’t feel really emotionally intimate with him. I don’t think I could ever love him. We also want different things – I want to get married at some point and would like to have children. He doesn’t. So of course the guy I see no future with is the one my friends want me to date haha.