Disengaging from someone on the internet is far different than disengaging in real life. I agree with Kate that learning to be ok being vulnerable and trusting is the hard part. I’m not sure one meltdown in 3 days shy of 6 months is anything to fret over.

I’m fairly certain I had one or two times I cried when talking to my now husband when we were dating. I think unless it’s a typical response or thing that happens often in your relationship you’re just fine.

Well I have a date update. Saturday I went out with NYE dude and we had a great time. I was super tired from running around all day (plus long dance class in the morning) so I was trying to rally before I met him at 6. (plus it rained off and on the whole evening.) We went downtown to a tiki bar I like, which unfortunately was packed so the wait for a drink was long. But we had a drink, and then left to get some dinner (deep dish pizza, yum), and then rode cable cars from one end to the other with Italian tourists. And found ourselves walking around in a very foggy, deserted area that is normally packed with people, so it was very eerie! Then we had to figure out how to get back to his place, which involved 3 different modes of transit. Let’s just say we were happy to get back to his place. Oh yeah, then he gave me a neck massage and we got nekkid and it was awesome. He was surprised when I said I had to go. I definitely enjoyed the whole evening, and I’m pretty positive he did too- for just being a second date, it was a good one! I’m trying to not worry too much about the age difference, as it’s not a big deal right now, but could be if it comes to the point where we talk about the future and such. (It’s too soon to do that, I think!) No plans yet for going out again though.

About 4 weeks after I started dating my husband i openly bawled on his shoulder at a softball grand final that my coach didn’t let me play in. Like snotty, sobbing, hanging off his shoulder bawled. My team mates heard me from the sideline. I feel like ktfran will be fine! Lol

Moneypenny that date sounds awesome. Actually everyone seems to be having good dates overall lately, it’s good to see.

So she is likely fine in this relationship, she just squeaked in with her “6 months”…6 months is nothing in the grand scheme of dating and relationships.

Correct me if I am wrog, he went out with his friends, she had a meltdown, then they talked about it and she cried

Ladies, you get about one of those in the initial stages of dating before a guy goes, wtf is wrong with you and jets.

It’s alright, stone, he also misinterpreted something I wrote towards the beginning of this forum post and told me I should stop seeing my guy. Kate called him in that, I believe. It clearly showed how he views women and relationships. I take no stock into what he’s saying.

Yeah, I actually already feel bad about submitting that post. It was kind of rude and unnecessary. Work has just been awful today and I’m grumpy.