DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Well I just had a guy from 3 years ago add me on snap chat. Ugh. We had dinner once as friends (I was new to the city and my friend was good friends with this guy). He started to get aggressive when we hung out, and the next time he contacted me I told him I had no interest in hanging out with him. He started sending me links to articles on period sex and other inappropriate text messages, so I didn’t respond and blocked his number. You figure this guy would get the hint that I’m not interested. It’s been three years since we hung out ONCE. I wish he would kindly fuck off and leave me alone.
Fuck, it looked like I missed a lot over the weekend. I need to read a few pages back.
Date numero cinco went well on Saturday. I’m normally never late to things, but I was late to brunch with my friends on Sunday because, well, reasons!!!!
@Eve you should go it sounds fun!
@Kare admittedly I don’t use snapchat much but can’t you block him? I think it allows you to friend and find anyone who’s phone number is in your contacts? I dunnoStill no word from Ham Sandwich, not really expecting it at this point.
I’ve been chatting with a teacher on Tinder for a few weeks and the only reason we haven’t met is because he lives two hours away. But he’s expressed interest in coming to my town on an upcoming Saturday and I told him that would be cool. He’s been a fun penpal so it’ll be nice to meet him in person. Not sure if it would go anywhere due to distance so maybe just a fun new friend. We’ll see.
@Kare, ugh, that’s gross, sorry to hear about that. Has he been snapchatting you or was it just an add? I also don’t quite know how snapchat works.
@veritek33, teacher sounds fun! even just a friends thing. You never know. Also, you’ve used penpal before… I like that word/term! Just amusing because there’s no pen (ahem) involved, like a lot of leftover jargon.
@Eve, sounds interesting. Hope lunch goes well.So I’ve been pen-palling with the lawyer. He’s been curious about the use of Tinder, e.g., hook up or meeting people to date, and it’s kind of nice just to talk about Tinder on Tinder with a guy, and not worry about it being too meta or a turn off, since it’s unlikely we’ll meet up.
I also have a question for you ladies. I chatted very briefly with a guy on OKC (2 messages each). He had a nice profile but we’ve literally only talked about coffee because of our profiles (how original). So he invited me to coffee which is fine because I agree it’s better to meet early and see if it’ll work than endlessly messaging each other. It did seem soon though.
I live however in a city an hour away from Toronto, and I’m pretty clear about that in my profile. And I am open to meeting people in Toronto to widen my pool. It just bothered me that right away he suggested coffee in Toronto and didn’t even offer to meet me here, where there is plenty of coffee, or half way. I understand that Toronto is the major city centre but he also invited me to a chain coffee place which could be anywhere (this is where I start sounding pretentious). I just don’t want to pay for a $20 return train ticket for a half hour coffee, but maybe that’s something I have to accept. Anyway, I’ve arranged it so I have plans in the city so it’ll be “worth” the trip.
Still, should he have at least offered an alternate place? or even checked if it was convenient I came out to the city?
@hfantods, my $0.02 is that you can certainly ask for him to meet somewhere in between for a first meeting. It’s not fair for you to have to travel all that way and him to walk 2 steps – especially for a chain place.
For example, Hippie Artist Guy lives a solid 30 minutes away from me, and he suggested meeting right away too. At first he asked me to drive to where he was, and I was like ummm, no, let’s meet somewhere in the middle, and he was fine with that.
Once you meet & decide you if you like each other you can take turns going back and forth. 🙂
hfantoda – I agree with LadyE in that you definitely could have counter offered and suggested a place that was more in the middle, or a little more convenient for you. I also don’t think a few messages in is too soon. Honestly, I would rather get the meeting over with then drag it out. I guess I’m impatient that way.
Ver – I’m sorry the ham never got back to you, but I think it’s clear that it’s time to kind of forget him. Good luck with the tinder teacher. You just never know!!! I always try to keep an open mind.
Kare – that’s creepy. I guess I don’t know how snapchat works. Did you have to add or accept him or something?
Sounds like date 5 was a success ktfran! I’m sure it provided lots of fun conversation at brunch! 🙂
Thanks for your opinions! I’m going to have to scope out some good first date places between here and the city. Because right now all I can come up with is a Taco Bell by a train station. This is not a dig on Taco Bell! But hopefully the upcoming date turns out.
Also, chiming in that I’m so glad the fifth date went well ktfran!
So… last Sunday (not yesterday, the one prior), our pool date lasted all afternoon, evening, and then I spent the night… We had another date Wednesday (no sleepovers) and Saturday happened, which was an evening date that started with a couple beers at a local brewery, next up was dinner, then we walked to a dive bar, which was close to my apartment, for one last drink and then he came over to my place and of course spent the night. Sex was had, a couple times. We stayed in bed until nearly 11:00 on Sunday. It was quite nice I was supposed to be at brunch with friends at noon. I didn’t get there until 12:30, but it was ok because we didn’t have reservations and the wait was an hour. Oh… and he’s a cuddler. Like all night kind of thing. I’m usually not. At all. But I kind of like it with him. He’s good at it. Anyway, another date Wednesday.
@hfantods I am from outside of Toronto (20-30 min away) and when I was doing online dating I would always suggest a halfway point because honestly I wasn’t interested in making a huge long trip, especially on a first date! It would be totally fine to suggest something halfway for the two of you. I am sure if you have access to the GO train, he does too and can meet up somewhere.
