So my date with Pilot guy went really well! He is really handsome, more than the online pics show. We had a good conversation about our outdoor adventures, and some of the crazy stories he had from his piloting days in northern Ontario. He works right now for a freighting company where he flies various cargo to and from Brussels in Belgium. Anyways, we had a good talk and I suggested getting together when he gets back from his week trip from Winnipeg and he seemed enthusiastic to. But I am leaving it in his court to reach out when he gets back.

I had my 4th date with Slogan guy today, stayed overnight to make it easier to go to rock climbing in the morning. Ended up having a really good nights sleep which is rare in a new guys bed. Then we did an hour of rock climbing which was cool and fun to revisit, but Slogan guy had never done it before, so he seemed to enjoy it. Then we went to brunch and back to his place till 5 where we hung out and got distracted 😉 Overall a fun night!

Ya…I may have gone a little overboard on the first dates. I have this mindset of ‘oh he looks nice! *Message* He does too! *Message*” x3 Wouldn’t recommend it, the first two weeks are hectic haha But I have also weeded out several guys, and it took me a while to get guys to message me back, let alone find one that was worth responding too. I have had several messages recently where they just say ‘hottie,’ ‘cute’ or something minimal.

Sounds like a fun weekend @Cleopatra. Are you just looking for a FWB thing or something more?

And @MissDre, it comes in waves I think. I have times where I swear there’s no men. Then times where men are everywhere. As cliche as it sounds, I feel like the less I look, the more they’re out there. But of course I’ve been sleeping with a coworker on and off for two years when I just absolutely need to get laid haha.

Lately I’ve just been a bitch to guys (well by “why men love bitches” standards), and they like it. It’s so weird to me since I’m typically a doormat, but the response has been positive. So again, I recommend the book to anyone who has issues standing up for themselves. I downloaded a free pdf online.

I’m not into playing games either. I disregarded the stuff about intentionally being a bad cook and that sort of thing. But the charts that said “when you say this, it comes across as this” and such were helpful to me. Plus the advice to have hobbies and interests to make yourself unavailable instead of pretending to be unavailable. I’ve found myself bending over backwards less, and it’s just helped me improve my relationship with myself (which has improved how I interact with guys I’m dating).

So in April I have a 5-day long date with…LA! I just booked an Airbnb and soon will get my plane tickets. To be honest I don’t know if I’ll even see the Salesman while I’m there – long story, though he said he has put me in his calendar he’s gone pretty silent on me – but whatever. I have a date with myself and the city I may want to move to! 😀

(Plus I have a friend there too so I won’t be totally alone.)

It’s really taken the pressure off dating because I’m pretty sure I’m not going to find a life partner here in NC, so now all my focus can be on getting there and pursuing my dreams of being a screenwriter for a network TV show! If I were going to find someone now he would literally have to drop into my lap because I’m not looking at all.

Although best of luck with everyone else in their dating!

@Cleopatra_30 Yeah, unfortunately my city is pretty white. So I go on POF for example and try to search Men, age 28-38, Black, Indian, Hispanic, Middle Eastern and it comes back saying “we’re sorry, there aren’t enough people to show you! try expanding your search!”

Tinder has more options, but the quality of dates/interactions on Tinder is shit. Soooo I’m just chillin for now, and hopefully I’ll eventually meet somebody within my circle of friends.