DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Astronomer I really see where you’re coming from. Like, my friends and I are huge softball fans and we’ve all played in the same club for years. Eventually we started our own club which was a pretty big job and we’ve all taken on running the club for years, including all the finances, getting sponsors, finding players, uniforms, websites… the list goes on and that’s just for a podunk club. Starting a huge event like this guy has is no walk in the park, and he’s obviously very committed and passionate about it. I think being so public about it is probably a good sign he’s very much the way you said too, into the positive aspects of consent etc.
Anyone that can organize and run a club must have his shit together at least a little bit. Amen.
Date six tonight folks. I think it’s date six. Or is it five? I’ve already lost track. But I think it’s 6.
Oooh whatcha doing for the date???
It’s been a week so we are officially deleting Ham Sandwich’s phone number from the cell! Too slow dude. Your loss.
So let’s get more serious about Tinder Teacher. We are trying to plan a meetup around our schedules right now. I’ll keep you guys updated!
I’m supposed to settle my debt from the bet tonight, but he’s giving me the option to defer since I’ve had a shitty week at work. Like, working 12 plus hour day. Last night was here 14.5. So, probably dinner and drinks outside somewhere downtown, as he lives right next to the office.
Yes. DELETE! Totally his loss. What a lame-o.
Remind me what you two are doing this weekend?!?
ktfran no plans yet because i work most Saturdays but my work is taking me near him next week so we might set up a dinner and then he offered to come down on a Saturday I’m not working. If it’s a 2 hour drive, four round trip, might as well have a day planned if we hit it off on the first meeting. If not, I’m out nothing if I’m going in the company car and buying dinner on the company dime that I’d be doing regardless. Best of both worlds
I need to start taking notes, so many useful things I’m learning about the world of dating here.
Annnd I also have a date. I’ve met the guy a handful of times, he seems very nice! He’s a bit younger than me but he definitely looks older than me (he acts as if he’s much older too, which I like in guys).
And that’s my first date of this type ever, I think I’ll get a heart attack. I know I will go with the aim to have a good time and be myself and blah blah blah. But it is still nerve-wracking for me. What do I wear? I don’t do ONS so don’t want to send the wrong signals, but I still want to look attractive obviously. I guess work conversations are a no-no? What do I look out for? Any common first date red flags? Any stupid mistakes women tend to make which I should avoid doing? I mean, not obvious mistakes, like talking about ex-boyfriends or rambling on for ages.. I’m not 16, I have some social awareness haha.
I’ll probably end up reading Cosmo-style article online.. can’t believe after 4 years of relationships I am reading dating tips on Google.. I feel like a teenager again.
😀 And BREATHE Eve!
Whenever I went on dates, I tried to have zero expectations – I always walked in thinking here’s a potential new friend, and let’s see what happens. Ask yourself, did you have a good time with him? Did anything make you feel uncomfortable, and if so why? Basically it’s just a chance to talk to someone and see if there’s something worth pursuing. Yeah?
Oh and I dress like myself, usually jeans and a top of some description but I’m not really a dressy kind of girl – best they know that off the bat.
@Nookie thanks! 🙂 🙂 I needed a slap on the face and someone to tell me to chill. Realistically it is silly getting so wound up over a date. And that’s an absolutely great way to think about it – going out with a friend and later thinking about how you felt during your time together. Is that also how men perceive it though ? Hm.
And yeah jeans, trainers and a top is my style as well. I would like to make some basic level effort though, perhaps a nicer top than usual lolYeah, think of it as just meeting a new person and having a drink and conversation. Dress like a best version of how you usually look. I used to go on dates after work, so I’d wear a cute dress. I’d brush my teeth and freshen makeup, and maybe sometimes curl my hair. I’d make sure my clothes looked nice, accessories were good, nails done, but like myself, not a fake version of me. If you always wear jeans, that’s fine, just take some extra care and wear the cutest version of jeans and top.
From my guy friends, I think dudes approach dates as something with potential. I think men feel a lot of pressure on dates to be charming and impress you so for most of them to actually go on a date is a big thing, so you have to allow for a bit of nervousness on their part – you might not be seeing the whole picture. But the same is true in the reverse as well.
It’s kind of like a job interview, you want it to go well enough that it’s not painful but it’s only exploratory in the first meeting usually. No need to rush it.
I don’t know, I think I’ve been quite lucky – if I feel that fizz of excitement with a person and it mirrors back from them, it’s pretty obvious that you like each other. And if not, meh it was only an hour out of your life… what else were you going to do, watch Gilmore Girls in your pants?
I echo others. If it’s a day date, I usually wear a fun skirt or sundress. If it’s an evening date, jeans and a nice top. If it’s after work, work clothes…. but I make sure I look extra good that day. I also echo others in that’s it best just to think of this as a potential friend as opposed to someone you want to date. It takes a little pressure off and you can decide if you actually like him as a person. I will say, I get ridiculously nervous before dates. Since dating this current dude, I’ve lost a couple pounds. Nervous stomach. Can’t help it.
Date went well last night. I think we’re both swamped this weekend and I’m out of town next weekend. I also have appointments after work next week, but they’re all be done by 7:30. I’m thinking I might, for the first time, extend the invite…. he’s done all the inviting thus far. It’s ok to do that, right?
Eve, when’s the date and what are you doing?
