Not sure if it matters, as I’m not trying to defend him (I feel indifferent for the most part), but he told me he’s been single for at least two years. I’m not sure when his last relationship was. But he moved to my city two years ago and said he’s been single this whole time.

I feel the same as MissDre. I don’t find that connection with many guys, so friends keep telling me I’m too picky and should be more open minded. But when I am open minded and go out with guys I normally wouldn’t, and then complain about them, people tell me I have to aim higher and “wait for the right person”..

Last week I went to a near-by city with some friends where we had an amazing weekend! I was introduced to a guy who is very good friends with one of my best friends (I think he had been hoping to set us up for a while). Luck has it, that same evening we arrived he reconnected with an old female classmate of his, who is an absolutely gorgeous, cute, kind, funny, down to earth girl. Who also lives in the same city as him and actually close to his neighbourhood too. He was definitely trying to get a date with her. I swear I am the living breathing definition of “bad luck”.

When we were leaving the city the last day, however, the guy got my phone number and suggested he buys me dinner next time I come to visit his city (which is in a couple of weeks, I go there quite often). I agreed to it and I was pretty excited, because he’s one of the few decent-seeming, level-headed, non-creepy guys I had met in a while. And our cities are like an hour away.

Well since then, there has been no indication that he wants to see me at all anymore. I messaged him last night to ask him something and you can tell he isn’t interested in holding any conversation with me, so I just stopped trying to talk to him. For example I asked him a question, I saw he started immediately typing something long. After 15 minutes he gave me a single-word reply. And that’s it.

I now realise I was a back-up in case things with the other girl he reconnected with don’t work out. And yes you don’t want to be a back-up. But it’s still sort of sh*tty to arrange a dinner with me when obviously he wasn’t even interested at all, but hey.
I love the dating world so much!! 😉

Hey guys…I am back at work and on a computer again so here I am butting in 🙂

I’ve only ready the last few pages. Dre, one other thing to consider is that he said he’s deleting Tinder, which still has the stigma of being a hook-up app…perhaps he wanted to make it clear he’s not looking to hook up. My advice to you is to STOP OVERANALYZING and perhaps don’t text so much between dates in the beginning. If he’s not texting to make a plan – or you’re not, then why bother with the communication? Also, text/email confuses tone, so you’re sitting here overanalyzing – as we all are – why he said that and what it means and is it a red flag. If you want to go out with him again, just do it.

I’m with Lianne and RR. I don’t think it’s necessarily a red flag. Just ask him out for a second date. If you enjoy it and you feel a spark, great! If you enjoy it but don’t feel a spark, that’s fine, take a break, dating is exhausting. If you don’t enjoy it, leave early.

Okay so the dude who asked me out to dinner but isn’t really bothered to talk to me just asked when I’m going to his city (which is in a few days) and told me that we will go somewhere nice.. so he still wants to go out. I probably will have better things to do with my time, like seeing other friends I have there.
Would you bother going out with the guy who has asked you out to dinner in two weeks time and didn’t really show much interest in talking to you at all during these 2 weeks (okay so far 1 week?) And as I mentioned in my previous post I definitely got the feeling I was a back-up in case things with the other girl don’t work out.. I know it is just a dinner and not a marriage proposal, just wondering what people would do in this case..

Question for everyone: at what point do you bring up past relationships when you meet someone? (i.e. how long have you been single, how long was your last relationships, etc). Do people discuss this on first dates or do you wait a few dates or do you not discuss that at all?