DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Okay, I no longer think he’s ghosting. I asked him when he’s going to be in town for longer than 24 hours, and he told me the dates (a couple weeks from now). They happen to coincide with the completion of his first full marathon and his birthday. So I suggested we plan something celebratory and he said he’s in, seems genuinely glad (from what I can glean through text) I suggested it. He also apologized for being away so much and told me that this year has been abnormally travel-heavy for him, and told me that he has ZERO work trips in January.
I suppose he could still go on to ghost me, but also think I’ve had so many men act like dbags toward me over the years that it’s hard to imagine anyone could actually just be busy. Which is a bit sad.
@Copa yes, I know what you mean. I don’t really believe anyone is just busy when they say that. I automatically assume it’s code for “not interested, don’t expect much”
@Copa this guy you’re seeing, does he live in your city and just travel a lot? Or does he live out of town? Are you cool with just meeting up and spending time together whenever you’re in the same place, without any expectations? Or are you hoping this will turn into something serious? Just wondering what your situation is.
@MissDre – We live in the same city, but he’s a consultant so he travels a lot. I think the norm for consultants is travel Mon-Thurs, but his schedule isn’t that forgiving right now. I’m busier than I’ve ever been at work these days so his travel didn’t bother me in the least until last week when I started wondering if he was ghosting. At this point in time, no real expectations, but I’m not actively pursuing other options (too busy to worry much about dating, so my companionship needs are met right now). I think he’s so unbelievably kind and open-minded and want to continue to get to know him. He’s said he’s ready to slow down and settle down — so I at least know we’re both wanting the same thing — but the rest of the year will probably be just as crazy between his travel and those pesky holidays. (He’s British and will be heading home to England to visit his family in December, SO there’s also that to factor in.) I guess the ghosting scare made me realize that 1) I genuinely like his presence in my life, 2) I miss his absence from my life, and 3) if things ended now, I’d be left wondering what could’ve been. On the bright side, I’ve been too busy to over-analyze until really recently. 😛
Sorry I’m late. Work is busy and I’ve been sick. But anyways,
Congratulations, ktfran!!!
I’m not saying you should set up a PO Box so we can send you cards, but I wouldn’t be opposed to it. You’re our dating thread success story! I’m so happy for you!
Not much to report here. My FWB and I did stuff Friday and Saturday, but this weekend he is hosting a private party that’s essentially an orgy. So I will not be attending that and will be attempting to find a halloween party instead haha. Oh and last night I had sex with my coworker, but I think I need to end things with him because he keeps sending me a lot of mixed signals.
@copa it sounds like things are going well, so I would just try to enjoy things as they are. When you have more time in the same city things could go either way. You might spend more time together and realize you aren’t compatible. Or you could end up being more serious. It sounds like you have the right outlook though.
Anyone have exciting plans for the weekend? Anyone dressing up? (I am…Halloween is my favorite holiday.)
Kare, what are you planning to be for Halloween?
I’m going to a Halloween party that is literary themed. As in, dress up as your favorite children’s lit character. Apparently there are going to be a few Harry Potter characters there. I am going as Nancy Drew. I’m just going to wear a 60’s era dress I made and do my hair in a flip. I also bought a big magnifying glass. So, simple, and something not super easy to guess. 🙂I also have plans to go on a date next week with a new guy- I’m actually looking forward to it! I’m staying cautious but optimistic.
I love the Nancy Drew idea! You have to take pics. Where are you going on your date?
I’m going to be a unicorn! I still need to finish my headband with the horn and stuff, but everything else is ready. Except my body because I’ve been under the weather and doing nothing but eating in bed instead of working out. Whoops.
On Halloween day, I’m wearing a pikachu kigurumi to work. Halloween is also my FWB’s birthday so I think sometime next week we are doing a spa day and dinner somewhere nice.
Oh my gosh, congratulations ktfran! That’s so exciting!
@MissDre, sorry to hear you’re being ghosted.For the most part, I think ghosting is awful. Even if there’s only been a single date, it’s not that hard to send a text saying “Sorry, I’m not feeling it, best of luck”. But I’ve ghosted a couple of guys just because they were really pushy and wouldn’t take no for an answer. For example one guy I went out with kept wanting to play text truth or dare, which is super fun except that it was always always sexual, even after I told him I was uncomfortable with that. So I stopped playing, but he still kept trying to lead the conversation that way, again even after I told him I wasn’t comfortable with it. So I just stopped responding.
I think someone harassing you about having to reschedule after a traumatic experience is a perfectly good reason to just block.
@Kare I expect to see unicorn pics on your instagram lol, that sounds awesome.
You too Moneypenny!I’m going to a birthday/halloween party tomorrow night as Dottie Hinson/A Rockford Peach (from A League of Their Own – I’ve have to explain this to a lot of people because apparently not everyone loves that movie as much as me?) So I’ve already got the red hair and red lipstick, just gotta find some old red baseball socks before tomorrow night!
