Copa, I’m sorry this happened, because I think you’re awesome and guys who ghost are such dicks. You deserve so so much better. I know it’s cliché but something better will come along.
Crooked teeth plus bad hygiene: gross.

I am oficially an idiot and I deserve all the scolding I can get. My now ex talked to me the whole week and one day he started talking about our relationship and I told him that I didn’t want that conversation to be over texts, so we met on Wednesday and talked for a bit, then he told me that he wanted to talk on Saturday and we went to lunch, then coffee, and when we finally got to talk he had to leave. He then told me to get lunch on sunday so that we could finally talk without him having to leave but he cancelled in the morning and told me to have breakfast today instead.
I met him today for breakfast and we talked a lot, but it ended up in me asking him to give me a chance, almost begging again, crying, and him telling me eveything I did wrong, and that he didn’t want to get back together. If he doesn’t want to get back together then why the fuck does he keep telling me that he wants to have lunch/breakfast with me and talk and do stuff together? He keeps hugging me, telling me that he will do stuff for me like taking care of my car, doing stuff for my family, etc etc. I told him today you either want to be with me or you don’t. He says he need time to think, that he loves me but feels too hurt by my actions. Fuck that. I gave everything for that man. I gave him everything, and he just says that he “needs time”. I grabbed my stuff and started walking and he begged me to take me home. I let him take me home but he kept saying that he wanted to be alone. But this whole past week he didn’t show that he wanted to be alone, he kept asking me for favors, telling me how beautiful I looked, asking me to help him, asking me to have lunch with him, offering me food. And today he says that I did everything for him so he will miss me. But he wants to be alone, so he will be alone from today on. I just deleted every member of his family from my facebook, I changed my Amazon password and told him to fucking switch gyms. He wants to be alone, he will be. But I am an idiot for letting him trick me this whole past week, letting him make me believe that he wanted to be back with me and that he loved me. I could have used this week to heal. I am such an idiot.

I love this community, I can’t believe all of the support I receive here, I know everybody told me to stop talking to him and stop letting him contact me, and now I will actually listen to all of the advice that I had early on, he was manipulating me. I hate everything right now.

Omfg. There’s something REALLY wrong with him. He’s a mean motherfucker and he’s punishing you for something. Or he’s just a shockingly selfish and self-absorbed little asshole. His treatment of you during and after this breakup (including the trip) should be a giant wake up call. He’s a piece of shit, sorry.

Yeah, I am MAD. He gave me hope again only to take it away. Everybody told me not to go today, to start my life without him already, and even my gut was telling me not to go because it was all going to be the same talk, the same shit abput how wrong I did and how he wants to be alone all over again, like he did when he broke up with me and then again on Wednesday and then again on Saturday. I should have listened to my gut. But I will listen now. This is all too hurtful but I know I will survive.

@Ale, I am so sorry. If it helps, I think you are being incredibly strong and I admire you. This was a long-term relationship and he is definitely emotionally manipulating you, probably to assuage his own guilt. Either that or he’s just straight-up sadistic. Either way, you will be fine and I’m so glad you can get some comfort from this community. I’m thinking of you.

Yes, the amazon thing is a joke. He can’t shop online because he “doesn’t know how” so he uses my account that I have set up to make it easier for him. However, since we don’t live in the US, things are different and everything arrives under my name but I have to go pick the packages up to the post office and also pay for them. I gladly did that when we were together, and now he wants me to keep doing it. Last week I even created an account for him, even after we broke up, explained how it works for him so that I didn’t have to do it, but he said that he wanted me to do it. Why the fuck do you tell that to someone you just broke up with? It gave me hope. So, he still wants the life I gave him, where I did everything for him, I solved his life and all I wanted back was loyalty, respect and to be in his priorities. He hasn’t faced the consequences of his decision.
Now that he has changed jobs and finally works in his field and makes much more money is when he decides to dump me. All this years of me helping him out when he had no money, letting him borrow my car, paying for him, waiting for him to make more money (because he promised we would talk about our future when he did, I didn’t care about the money) were like a scam. He dumped me the minute he was able to.
So, this week I have to go pick some stuff up at the post office (if I don’t they’ll charge me more money) and I’ll throw everything in his desk and that’s it. I had to change the password so he can’t order anything else that I would have to pick up. He’ll realize it soon. I blocked his number everywhere (a move I didn’t want to make, but had to) and I’m ready to move on.

Yes, what Kate said. Block him on all social media too. I can’t effing believe he would expect you to continue picking up his shit at the post office and paying for it after you broke up, WTF!!! What a douche.

Change all your passwords as well, everywhere. Make sure he can’t access anything.