I was close to suggesting the same thing as Kate. I really do think it’s a good option to consider. At this point, it’s 100% harassment.

People at the gym already know, it’s a small gym and they have all been very helpful. They know we are not on speaking terms. I don’t think he would ever get dangerous, he is not violent or like that at all.
He hasn’t contacted me since yesterday’s talk and today at work he hasn’t come around. He always came to say hi, and yesterday when I ignored him, he was still around, I saw him walk by a couple of times, he was in the same room having lunch with me and I ignored him, until he called me in the afternoon. After I told him to stop contacting me and to give me space, he told me he would get lunch at another time, and would find another place to eat. I’ll see about that later in the day.
Today has been going well so far, I think he got the point now. I am incredibly sad by all of this, a month ago he was there with me for my graduation and now everything is over. My next appointment with my therapist is until monday. It was today but he cancelled. That would have been very helpful.

@Ale I wouldn’t worry so much about being the crazy ex when he seems to be filling that role nicely, but would still find a way to return his things to him to take the high road. Maybe have someone else do the delivery — that way you’ll have no contact. Do you go to a tiny gym? If you’re at a huge gym and he’s seeking you out when your gym times overlap, I second what everyone else has said about approaching the gym staff because that’s, as today’s youths would say, so extra. I have two gym memberships — one is a very small gym in my office building, the other is small group classes — and both are tiny. It’s harder to avoid someone in those spaces, and if that’s the case I’d just change up my routine. At this point, you’re still acknowledging him even just a little bit, right? Stop. Completely and entirely, just stop. I wouldn’t even bother with pleasantries if you see him around work (unless it’s a situation where you HAVE to). Once you stop acknowledging him — even if it’s just to tell him to leave you alone — he’ll get bored and stop.

Maybe his MOM can help him with his password. Sheesh. He can have the rest of his dumb life to think about how he messed everything between you two up!

I still don’t think he is a bad person but I do think he has managed this in an awful way and has made everything worse. I told him everything he was doing wrong and he couldn’t believe that he was hurting me. I know for a fact he won’t contact me. I was very clear yesterday.

@Ale I know people on here are calling him sociopathic, but I actually think it’s very likely that he’s handling this so poorly because he’s hurting, too. Not that pain is an excuse for his behavior, but breaking up is hard for everyone — even the dumper.