DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Seriously, they should keep their mouths shut and just help you two avoid each other if possible. My dumb ex still goes to my hairdresser, and they know the deal and will avert a crisis if we were to both book on the same day. My hairdresser also won’t talk about him unless I happen to ask. So much time has gone by, every once in a while I’m like, how’s that bitch doing, but I still don’t feel like running into him at the salon.
I don’t blame you. I’d tell the management why, too, like, how does your staff not know better than to tell someone who just got dumped that her ex is flirting with someone else. And ask them to waive any penalty. WHAT THE HELL?
Are these gym friends or the gym staff? If the former, ditch those fit friends and shame on them for being so gossipy. It sounds like they’re opening a can of worms with speculation about what someone saw or thought they saw at a movie theater. If it’s the staff, then tbh, it’s pretty weird they’d gossip about any of this to you, but I personally wouldn’t make a fuss over it to management because I think that’s a bit odd, too. We all do make mistakes in the breakup process, so don’t feel too bad about yourself. I know it’s all easier said than done, but tune anything about your ex out. Don’t seek out all the shit he did when you weren’t looking, because it’s NEVER going to make you feel better.
One of them is staff/”friend”. Like he works out there but also has a part time job there. I don’t care, I feel like an idiot for letting them mess with me.
I used to work at a gym and I would NEVER gossip like that to anyone even if we were friendly outside the gym. Don’t feel bad Ale, it’s entirely on that guy for stirring up the drama. His management should be furious with him for potentially costing them clients with his stupidity.
Just caught up on all this.. HOLY HELL, ANGE.
Yeah, cut ties, cut gyms, no contact, post on here if you’re thinking of contacting this d-bag
I’m back from two weeks of vacation and caught up with this thread – HOLY HELL ALE I’m so sorry! I agree that splitting from the gym is a great call. It sounds like you were really invested in this guy. My ex was a man-child too and acted helpless for many things, leaving me as the adult/mom figure. And then he cheated, and it was salt on the wound of realizing that I had been doing way too much for too long for someone who didn’t appreciate me. I’m so glad you’ve found your anger in this and will no longer blame yourself. I found the anger was the hardest thing for me to let go of – not only anger towards the guy but also towards myself. I encourage you to be kind to yourself in any way possible (spa day, your fav snack, puppy cuddling). You deserve kindness right now more than anything.
As for me, vacation went amazingly! Got to meet a lot of bf’s friends from his MBA program, spent a lot of time getting to know his parents better, ate/drank everyting, and I did also get up the nerve to tell my bf I loved him (in our private hot tub, in Santorini, as we drank wine and watched the sunset). Of course he told me he had been trying to find the right time to tell me while in Santorini too as he thought he botched the first kiss so he wanted the first I love you to be really romantic. At one point in our trip I was literally so happy (and erm drunk) I cried. We’re going on 6 months next week and while I don’t want to be an idiot and overthink it, I really feel like this is going the right way.
congratulations KMTTHAT. You sound so happy 🙂
The closes thing I’ve had to a date lately is my super hot chiropractor digging his thumbs into my shoulders and dry needling my butt. It’s a dry spell around here lol.
Hope you’re having a better week this week Ale.
@kmentthat so glad to hear all about this. It sounds super romantic and also, relaxing.
As for me, they say time heals everything, but I am feeling worse with each day that passes. I’ve been crying all day at work (no one has seen me, I do it in hiding). And I just feel like crap and I also keep blaming myself. I need to find the anger again actually, I feel so guilty.
I already found a new gym however I am dreading going there. I am really anxious and I hate new things (like new jobs, new gyms, new whatevers). I want to work out and feel like I should, but I just hate the fact that I abandoned the one I knew and it’s all changes.
