Thanks Lianne!
We met on Coffee Meets Bagel. I liked his profile back in July, and he apparently didn’t get mine until a month later when we matched up. He’s pretty interesting and engaging, and his profile was totally different from what I normally come across. We’ve been texting for the last couple of weeks- we would have met up last week but we were both totally booked up with other stuff, so Tuesday is the day. I’m trying to just be cautiously excited, just because we haven’t *actually* met yet and it could totally not go well. (You just never know…) But let’s face it, I’m excited!

Yay Money! Have a great date tomorrow!!!!

@diane, this is a thread about dating in general. No specific advice was asked… It’s for fun. And sometimes people don’t like hashing out dating specifics with friends. This is the perfect spot to discuss.

I have to agree with Kate on this point: “no guy or girl who’s really interested in someone is going to let 4-5 weeks go by before they see the person again. They’re going to find a way to get some face-time in.”

The only exception would be if they lived half-way across the country or if one of the two parties was going on an extended trip, etc.

And I speak from the point of view of someone who would give my ex boyfriend a pass when we were “on again” when he was “so so busy” and had no time to see me for weeks. I was an idiot.

Edited to say: I also would purposely not write into DW for advice because I know it would have been MOA 🙂

Gotcha! And yes, that conversation could absolutely be forthcoming! The only reason I think some of us are being cautionary, is because Veritek said it was a sour note/bad part. And if she’s feeling that way, it could be telling. But I could have misinterpreted how she meant it.

Yeah, I mean, you can make that suggestion. Once. His response is going to be telling. If you specifically make an offer to come up on a Sunday (or Saturday night after practice) and he doesn’t take you up on it, or changes the subject and doesn’t pick it up again, you shouldn’t keep pursuing it. You’ve been very accommodating here and very clear in letting him know that you’d like to see him. Now you’re making an offer to be even more accommodating, and pick up the slack for his busy season. If he’s into seeing you, he should be all over it. If he’s trying to pull a fade, he won’t be.

Ale, she already did tell him she wants to see him sooner. That to me is the area of potential concern, that he’s not saying, “yeah, I do too! what can we do?” He’s letting it rest. He may still come through and suggest an interim meeting though, you’re right.