Yet! Jk jk. Gotcha. That’s fantastic.

A blogger I follow had an Insta story that she and a guy matched on an app. They set up a meeting, then exchanged numbers and when he put it in his phone they realized they went out on one date four years ago but neither of them remember!! ? he ended up cancelling their meeting. I feel like people change in four years.. idk, what do you guys think?

My sister’s friend said this happened to him, but I can’t remember if he went out on that date. I’ve met a bunch of people from online, but don’t think I’d forget meeting someone if I saw their photo.

Did she say why they didn’t go out again? I think people can change in four years, particularly if they were pretty young when they met the first time. I don’t think I’m terribly different now in terms of personality/wants than I was at 28, but have more dating experience and probably wouldn’t be as quick to dismiss a date. But at 28 I was wildly different than I was at 24. All that to say, I think it’d be an interesting experience to go on a second first date with someone for kicks. (But there are some guys I’ve been out with who I wouldn’t want to spend another two hours with under any circumstances.)

ETA: Does anyone ever think about what their lives would be like if they had stayed with someone from their past? I don’t often, but sometimes when I meet people who married the guy they met when they were like 23, I remember my boyfriend from my early/mid 20s and LOL at what it’d be like if we’d gotten married like we’d planned.

So, question: How many of you would feel comfortable allowing someone to foot the bill for a pricey date when you’ve only been out a few times? In a recent conversation with the guy from Bumble, a date idea came up. It’s pricey (like, $200 per person pricey) and he said it’d be his treat. I’m fine paying my own way if we do that thing, but the gesture itself made me pause. I asked a couple friends, who all seem to be in the “he’s trying to impress you, it’s okay to go with it” camp.

We have our next date this weekend (though it will be low-key and not the expensive thing in question).

I wouldn’t necessarily think “desperate” immediately, but do wonder what the context of him offering was. Also what is the activity? I think that matters, too.

Why would it be desperate to allow someone to pay for something they invite you to and offer to pay for? This women’s lib stuff might be going a tad too far.

I think it can possibly be a problem because unfortunately, a lot of guys have unspoken expectations. They feel that because they “invested” money in a date, she owes them another date or she owes them sex. It can create an awkward dynamic when you still don’t know someone well. I think accepting pricey gifts or letting him pay for pricey experiences is better left to when know you want to be exclusive with someone.

That being said, I don’t think there’s any issue at all with allowing a guy to pay for your date in general.