I can honestly say that looks-wise, the husband is nothing like my “type.” I didn’t even find him particularly attractive at first, and now I look at him and I think, damn, he’s hot.

Value-wise, family-wise and life-style-wise, he is exactly who I wanted, or my “type.”

Personality-wise, he’s pretty darn close, but could be a little more of a go-getter. Neither one of us are, but we manage.

I think it’s ok to have deal breakers, but I do think you set yourself up for failure if you’re stringent on things such as age, looks, career, etc.

For instance, one of my close friend’s had a very specific type. She only dated that type and was wildly unsuccessful. She ended up hiring a life/dating coach. Met her match, who was nothing like she thought she wanted, and she’s married and extremely happy. Like, she’d only date people who worked in finance or engineering or some office job. And now she’s married to a nurse, someone she was wary about because he wasn’t let’s say, a doctor. He’s great for her and to her!

I guess what I’m saying is, qualities, character, personality are extremely important. The rest, meh, unless you know you don’t want something. Like, thank goodness neither one of us wants pets or kids. Oh, and the husband was married once before, briefly.

Oh no, I wasn’t losing sleep over him! lol. I had an allergic reaction in the middle of the night and had to take Prednisone (high powered steroid) in order for my eyelids to stop swelling up for me to go to work today and train new people for 8 straight hours. #grouchy

I had fun at Happy Place, but I didn’t realize that it exists almost exclusively for people who want to take the perfect selfie. Ha! I was expecting it to be more like the Wndr Museum (the one with the Yayoi Kusama Infinity Room — which, btw, is coming to Chicago next month). I think I would have enjoyed it a bit more if I’d been there with someone who I wasn’t on a third date with — like, it felt really silly to be taking a million selfies together. If you guys are selfie or goofy picture people, it’s worth it. If you’re super curious like I was, tickets aren’t too expensive.

On a related note, my current Bumble guy — I think he’s cute, but he’s not really my “type” physically. But I’m paying more attention these days to the important things like personality, character, values — and I honestly think this guy is great so far. He’s kind, curious, and far more thoughtful than anyone I’ve dated in a VERY long time. He listens and remembers what I talk about. We’re going out again on Wednesday, to his friend’s art show, and have also talked about things like kayaking. He seems a lot like me in how he enjoys spending his time (a good mix of relaxing at home, going out for food/drinks, and enjoying outdoorsy crap). Who knows where things will go, but it’s nice that we both seem interested in getting to know each other for the foreseeable future. And I know I shouldn’t be comparing, but, I mean, Neighbor basically doesn’t leave his apartment on weekends unless it’s to take his dog to the curb or go to da club or a party late at night.

I still haven’t been to Duck Duck Goat! Happy Place takes about an hour, max, so it’ll be easy to fit in amongst other activities. A lot of the photo ops there would actually be hilarious if you’re dressed up (like jumping into the ball pit, lounging in a bathtub with rubber duckies).

Go there on a date, it’s really good. Actually, if you want to try the duck, you need at least 4 people so you can enjoy the other food too. I like it better than her other restaurants because I like the salt/flavor bombs with chinese food. At her other too places, I feel like she goes overboard.

And yes, bumble guy sounds promising.

Just chiming in to say the dress is so lovely @theHizzy!

And @Copa – bumble guy does sound great! Hope it keeps working out for you 🙂