DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Wow, a year?! Without ever seeing her bedroom? That’s cray. I agree, seeing where/how a date lives can give you a lot of insight into their personality and maturity. The first time I saw my husband’s place, I was like, WOW! He lives like a grown-up! It was spotlessly clean. It didn’t smell like feet.
There were books and plants. He had real furniture! Before him, I’d dated more than one guy who still slept on a mattress on the floor. (In their defense, they were grad students, but still.) Knowing you are dating a grown-up rather than an overgrown adolescent is pretty nice.
I have yet to date Mattress On The Floor Guy. Seeing how people live is so fun for me (also the reason I loved open houses growing up), and yeah, it really can tell you a LOT about who you’re dating. Most of the men I’ve dated have had decent to nice places — even the guys who have lived in studios. The past year and a half or so I’ve mostly dated older men who are closer to 40 (I’m early 30s), and I’ll sometimes actually feel a little bit bad about my space in comparison.
It’s been like 3 months and I have yet to spend the night with the AG. We started talking about it though because as I mentioned we both fell asleep the other day and I left in a slight panic. We are going to see Star wars at the hollywood bowl tomorrow, which I am incredibly excited about – star wars +orchestra +picnic!
AG lives like an actual adult, owns a house with a kitchen I actively lust for, nice furniture and art on the walls. Actually has a small collection of geek things so gets mine. He has yet to see my place though I did do a video walk through for him – I have kids at home after all and 3 months is nowhere NEAR ready for that. Maybe over thanksgiving when is Dad’s turn to have them? I dont know.
re: the best friend’s GF. I (well, honestly, barely) tolerate her. She treats him as a wallet attached to a man. Very rarely does what he needs and wants come into consideration at all. I HATE that for him, but after I said my piece initially, I’ve just backed off into polite tolerance. It’s a mistake he has to make apparently.
ETA- he STILL hasnt seen her bedroom. It’s been almost a year and a half.
@Copa I’ve dated matress on the floor guy lol. Well, it started out as really terrible bed and became mattress on the floor after we, ahem, broke it. Which didn’t take much force at all, because it was truly terrible!
Also, I love when men cook on dates. It shows he really wanted to impress you.
The first time MofV cooked for me he made a pretty simple pasta dish from memory but he couldn’t remember if it called for a teaspoon or a tablespoon of red pepper flakes. He went with the tablespoon. I was trying to be nice but we were both sweating and downing milk by the end of the meal. Luckily, he has cooked for me since, and he’s a wonderful cook. But I think the red pepper flake story will live long and be told many times like the story about my father’s first thanksgiving turkey that he served raw…….
I actually don’t think a mattress on the floor is as bad as no soap. One of my friends is a year younger than me and super meticulous and tidy about his living space, but for whatever reason he has his box spring and mattress on the floor. His space is so clean and bright. But no soap? That’s being dirty.
@veritek33 I love the pepper flake story. Hopefully MoV can laugh about it, too. I love cooking with a guy. The last guy to cook for me and not with me was my first serious boyfriend — so, ages ago. Last night was so flattering and lovely, but I felt a little like a kid playing house eating a homemade dinner and drinking wine at a proper table. Hooray for a couch-free dinner!Oh gosh no soap. The best thing about my ex is that he lived with his sister (he raised her so she was a teenager when we started dating) so there was always girly products to use too, on top of soap!! Eventually we couldn’t even tell each other’s clothes apart we shared so much. That was actually lovely. Always a tampon in an emergency! Conditioner!!
My biggest fear once it was pat nasty bathrooms and mattress on the floor was horrible bachelor furniture he was in love with. Horrible black leather couch with cooler in it, everything chrome or glass. I don’t mind a bit of that but I ran into a few who thought whatever item was just the end all be all and I struggled to imagine living with an actual cooler on my couch haha. I mean. I get to convenience but it isn’t happening!
Husband and I have oddly similar tastes. Down to color scheme and everything! Combining our stuff made that easy as heck! I was pretty grateful for that.
Had another fun date with Bumble Guy yesterday! We went paddle boarding. We kept yapping about how it was the perfect day, but turns out Lake Michigan is pretty choppy no matter how nice the day is. I invited him to my place for dinner last night but he had a family dinner. Sooo we made tentative plans for tomorrow night (he has an evening work call that keeps getting rescheduled, and thinks it’ll be rescheduled yet again). But then last night when I was at home got some texts from my cousins and realized I’d blanked on a dinner we’d been planning. I just texted B.G. about it this morning, along with my schedule for the rest of the week and into next. I feel kinda bad. I’m not ready to bring him around my family yet so I don’t want to invite him even though I’m sure everyone would be okay with it.
Anyone remember A.T., one of the guys I dated last fall? Randomly heard from him yesterday for the first time since December. He was a nice guy, but I don’t think he was the guy for me, so I actually felt kinda sad to hear from him.
If I remember correctly A.T. was the guy you were dating while dating someone else too right? I remember you saying he was nice.
I had such an amazing weekend. I did a night hike (12 am-2 a.m.) to watch the Perseid meteor shower with my best friends. At 2 a.m. we were at the top of one of the peaks and just laid out our blankets, had some wine and chocolate while talking about life and star gazing. Then we watched the sunrise and got back for breakfast. So cool!
@Ale Yeah, met him last June or July. Initially liked him a lot. When I got dating anxiety around September, I decided the cure to that would be to meet someone new. Ended up liking the second guy more after a few dates wit him, but then that guy dumped me after spending the night because he didn’t feel “emotionally into it” or something. Around that time, I was also realizing that A.T. was a nice guy but I felt low on his priority list. He lives/works in the suburbs and travels about 50% of the time for work. Things fizzled around the holidays, and I was fine with it. I sometimes think about him cause he was a nice, good guy, and I really liked his friends a lot — but not the right match for me.
That sounds like a GREAT weekend! Any updates on the guy you went out with and liked?
