DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I’m a good baker but I don’t do it very often, so I think I saw it as an opportunity to show off my baking skills early on in the relationship. I made carrot cake with maple frosting and it was a hit. I usually make it for him every birthday now. I think maybe we did go to out to dinner as well. Valentine’s Day was a week prior to his birthday (V-day and his birthday both in the first month of dating!) and I cooked for that.
@K I am all for staying in on Valentines. I always cook. Overpriced meals, crowded restaurants, long waits…. We do something nice at home on V day and save the night out for a calmer day.
I’m curious how often those of you in longer relationships stay in vs. go out? I think I’ve realized (through falling in ruts in past relationships where we did too much nothing on the couch together) how important actual date nights are, and curious how you all find balance.
We usually cook in addition to gifts. For his birthday in April I made peanut butter cookies because they’re his favorite, in addition to a beer book and a glass.
For my b-day he got me earrings but also got up early to make me French toast. Both were EXCELLENT gifts 🙂
@Copa we went out a lot more in the beginning and now, since we only see each other on the weekends, we go out maybe once during that time. We’ve been trying to save up some money for him moving up here and possible engagement/wedding so we just haven’t gone out as much.
He mentioned it would be really nice to actually dress up and go out, and I agreed. We haven’t done it in a month or two so it’s time.
We go out a lot. We have a date night every Saturday where we tend to put on nice outfits and get dinner and drinks. We also go to the casual restaurant where we had our first date twice a week. Even when we cook at home (well, he cooks), we will take a walk after, maybe get a drink. We definitely do not settle in on the couch and watch TV, ever. I have a few shows I watch on Netflix or Hulu, but I can watch on the bus. He watches shows or movies in bed on his iPad.
To me, maybe how I was raised, dinner at home is just meh, utilitarian, just a necessary meal after work. Cooking at home doesn’t do much for me, even when I have time. I like to be out in a restaurant/bar environment trying different foods.
We have almost always been kind of in the middle with going out and staying in. We do stay in a bit more now but frankly that is because there aren’t nearly as many things to do where we now live. I mean there’s hunting, fishing, sports, beer………That’s about it! There are maybe two “nice” restaurants and a handful of less fancy interesting options but there just aren’t an abundance of options so it limits our outings a bit more. I also am from a city where we get dressed nicely and go out on weekends fairly regularly. Even at the “fancy” restaurants here people are in tennis shoes and jeans 🙁 I miss my nice clothes.
Yeah, I guess I just think of one ex in particular where our date nights were often in (we were in school and poor, so whatever), but kinda cringe that we were always eating on the couch in front of the TV.
Three hour drive or we would more. I was there recently though. Just not close enough for a night of course. I do love Chicago, when the wind isn’t kicking in. I get insane headache with cold wind, I own A LOT of ear bands to avoid that.
We don’t mind Netflix nights, we both enjoy cuddles and cooking together and being lazy some weekends. We will also play word games together on iPad while hanging out, stuff like that. We do make a point of regular date nights though and the occasional bar up the street, since its walkable and we know a lot of people who end up there (same people always since small town). We always do lunch on Fridays since he works half days which is fun, always feels like we are getting away with something since it’s a weekday.
We do a nice mix of go out and stay in. We try to cook 4 to 5 nights a week. We also have Broadyway in Chicago season tickets, so that helps to get out. And we go to a few sporting events here and there, especially during basketball season… Marquette… and we go to Hockey games.
Since, IDK, August we’ve both traveled A LOT for work so we welcome quiet nights in. Since September, not one week has gone by where at least one of us isn’t on the road. I leave tomorrow/friday. He’s gone Mon/Tues next week. And we’re never gone the same weeks. It’s weird. Literally, every other since early September.
