DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Also, @TheLadyE – YIKES! I think I would’ve hung up on that guy way sooner. If your name is very unique, you be more mindful of not giving it out. My name is common, but I did have one guy tell me he found me on LinkedIn and knew where I worked and then tried to “warn” me that the weird guys would be able to find it just as he had. And I was like, good sir, you ARE one of the weird guys.
Yeah, the phone call was super weird and then especially him blowing me up with messages (some of them nonsensical) afterwards. He had seemed fine, great, funny, smart, interesting before that.
The problem is that now almost every site is requiring that you put your first name. OKCupid does, all the apps do (because many of them are connected via Facebook) and Match does too. I think it’s a way to increase security, which makes sense, but my name is really unique. Plus I look unique (little redhead), plus now that I’m a comic I’ve been getting recognized by strangers when I’m out and about, and several guys on dating sites have said they recognized me or have a friend who knows me from doing comedy. It’s not a small town but it’s not a huge city either. I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I think I’m getting a little locally…famous? Eek.
I feel like this is all learning as you go, and this guy seemed pretty awesome from just messaging so I was shocked at how horrible he was on the phone (and then scary after I hung up on him). It was like turning over a rock and finding a snake.
Ironically I’m a redhead and have a lot of Irish in me but I’m not even wearing green today. I’ve had a pretty low-key weekend with my dog, saving up money to go to LA. I haven’t even gone out for a meal or a drink this weekend at all! I’m technically on Weight Watchers and I’m just trying to be chill right now. Hope everyone else had fun!
Wow, @ladye, that is one creepy dude. Jesus, it is tough out there. When shit like that happens it makes me want to crawl into a corner and cry. There was one time when a Tinder match started calling me through video calls on whatsapp at 11 pm. I blocked him as soon as I saw the calls.
Wow, that’s bullshit that you have to use your real first name!!! Hello, personal safety. God.
Ok so it is the Monday morning after St Paddy’s day and it is not a good time for me. I also have to work outside in the blazing sun all day and I’m meant to be on a TV show tonight. I did not make good decisions.
Where/how do you have to use your real name on Match? It’s been a long time since I’ve used OKC, and I wasn’t on it for long, but I’ve been on Match a couple times over the years and as recently as a year ago. They didn’t require it then and I’m curious how they’d require it now. Is it now a required field in your profile? Maybe you could do a nickname or something like just your first initial? Definitely seems like a safety issue.
It looks like these sites are suggesting you use your real first name, which is irresponsible. But you don’t have to.
I definitely wouldn’t. I mean, “Kate,” fine, and I don’t have anything unique you could google me by. But with a less common name AND something like stand-up comedy? Hell no. Lie.
