DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Emsz – sounds like you made the right choice on moving on from that guy, but I agree that it doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t like kissing! I was disappointed and seriously wondered why people actually enjoyed the experience with the first guy I dated/kissed/made out with (oh lord I don’t want to think about how long ago that was). Luckily my subsequent experiences were much better, and I also figured out what I liked best with time
For a long time I thought I was a bad kisser because my two greatest angsty teenage loves ended up being such awkward makeout sessions. I also dated a guy for 4 years that I just didn’t enjoy kissing. After a lot more kissing and eventually hooking up with one of my high school loves years later, I’ve discovered:
1) he was definitely the bad kisser. Not me
2) kissing is definitely better when you feel chemistry
3) I get bored with kissing at a certain pointI’m sure you’re not a bad kisser and that it will be totally different with a guy you’re more attracted to! A lot of first kiss stories aren’t spectatular. Mine was with a real winner known as “White Chocolate”. :/ Then my “friend” told everyone I had gonorrhea from kissing him.
The first boy I kissed was super sloppy! Gross!
Emsz… I agree with others. Don’t write kissing off yet. You’ll enjoy it with the right person. I promise!
Speaking of kissing. I had a heavy period over the weekend (yeah, tmi) and didn’t want to have sex. So… on Saturday… we full on made out for like two hours. Mostly kissing. For two hours straight. That hasn’t happened in years and years and it was kind of fun.
God I love a good make out session.
My first boyfriend was a decent kisser. He got worse as time went on. Second guy sucked at kissing, way too timid. Third guy was actually really good kisser but that didn’t last long. Most recent ex was a very good kisser and complimented me on my kissing as well (pat on the back). I briefly dated a really bad kisser earlier this year which led to really bad sex and the only person I actually regret sleeping with because I felt like I had to. (different story for a different day.)
Tinder teacher is a good kisser. Very into making out as well, which makes me happy. He’s good at other things but I’ll leave that to your imagination.
Everyone deserves good kisses.
Question.
Yesterday, I received an invite to my cousin’s wedding shower on November 7th. It’s not really a shower in the typical sense. It’s an evening affair with apps and wine and such. It’s also a couple thing. Actually, it’s more like an engagement party.
Should I invite the guy? Too soon? He’d meet a couple cousins, a cousin’s husband, a cousin’s fiance and my sister and her husband.
@ktfran maybe wait a week or two and see how you feel about it? You have a month before the event.
Or, just ask him. “Hey, there’s this couples thing that family will be at. You’re invited and I’d love for you to go, but I totally get it if you’re uncomfortable meeting family just yet.”
Just be casual about it. Unless you really want him to go, and then you should tell him. His reaction to that should tell you where he’s at.
Yeah, what Veritek said. To me it’s not too soon, and you don’t want to be in that position of not having invited him and he’s like, whatcha doing this weekend and then it’s awkward that you’re going to a couples thing you didn’t invite him to. I would not position it as a shower though, that might sound weird to him. More as an engagement party.
Yeah.. the shower sounds weird. And it’s early for the wedding, which is in June. I guess Nov. is when her sister wanted to come to Chicago… so they’re doing the friend shower/engagement party now.
I’ll probably wait a week and invite him. We’ve already progressed to spending 4 to 5 nights a week together. I’m pretty comfortable. I do still get a little nervous about asking things like this though.
Honestly I think you’re at a point where it would be weirder NOT to invite him to stuff like this. Or weirder not to assume he’d be your date to a couples event than to assume it. You know? I would say trust your gut, but I think your gut might be a little off, just based on the last example where he was meaning to invite you to that work thing.
Oh… my gut is totally off. I have a habit of being the more careful one in these things and moving at a lot slower pace. I’m really, really trying to be more open and such.
ktfran, did you ever let him know that being open etc is hard for you? Rather than having to display the ‘normal’ or ‘perfect’ behavior or whatever, I think with stuff like this it’s important – and SO freeing – to talk about the *imperfections*. 🙂
Like “I’m so glad you’re coming to this thing, I was afraid it might be weird to ask you.”
“Why?”
“I don’t know. Sometimes I’m insecure about these things and when it’s okay to ask. I guess I have a hard time opening up.”
“D’awww. Don’t worry, I’m glad you asked.”I think an honest conversation about insecurities can relieve so much of the insecurity…because the other person knows. 🙂
Anyway, it sounds like you’re doing pretty awesome with this one!
