@Regina, he does know that this stuff makes me uncomfortable and that I have a hard time expressing things. I pretty much told him that straight up. So… I’ve been slowly opening up to him and complimenting him and letting him see me vulnerable. Now, I need to work on asking things… such as to this event. I’m actually positive that if he doesn’t have plans, he’d be more than happy to come with me. At the same time, I’m still a little guarded with my heart and I’m proceeding cautiously. I just don’t want to move too fast. So, I didn’t know if inviting him to a family engagement party that was basically 3.5 months in the relationship was too fast. But I think Kate is right, it would probably be weirder not to ask him.

Just dropping in to say I am so excited for Friday! The Lion Tamer has already told me about 3 times over how much fun he had with me last week, how much he is looking forward to Friday, and he rearranged his work schedule (he’s a tutor) so we could go to an event together that we’re both interested in. I think I am going to ask him to drive me there since it is downtown from where we both live and parking will be tough.

He made sure to reach out to me on Sunday evening and reiterate how much he enjoyed our date and confirm that he wanted to see me again, and we’ve talked on and off since then. Initiative! I can hardly believe it!

Side note: on our date on Friday (which was 6 hours long and during which we closed down the pub!), based on my advice as a Very Involved Dog Mom (which he loves actually, thank goodness), he decided to adopt the dog he is currently fostering. He LOVES this dog and it was so obvious to me that he is supposed to be his dog. 🙂 It’s SO cute. I think I am going to pick up one of my dog’s favorite treats and give it to him on Friday – for his dog “from my dog” to say congrats on his new home.

I think you should definitely ask him! I apologize if this has already been clarified, but he is your boyfriend right? Or are you guys not to that point yet? If he is indeed your boyfriend, I think it’s the norm to invite him to an engagement party/couples shower type thing. If he’s not your boyfriend, I still think it would be fine becasue he’s invited you to that work friend thing. He might also share your unease about inviting you to things becasue didn’t he originally invite you to the work thing in a roundabout way? Maybe you guys are perfect for each other!

In my dating news, I’m just going to brag that I had mind blowing sex last night. I lost count at 40 orgasms. It was phenomenonal. It’s the first time I’ve had that intense of sex without an emotional connection, so I’m happy. Although tired today. Meh, sex > sleep.

Ugh, so he WAS a total time waster in the end. I bet whatever issues he has, he got scared after he acknowledged he was actually “dating” you.

That’s great LadyE. I hope he kisses you on your next date. I like kissing. The dog treat idea is really cute.

Kare. 40? How?

He’s my boyfriend. We don’t call each other that out loud. But he is. The other day, while texting, he said something to the effect of “officially being in a relationship, which we have been for a while anyway.” So… yeah, he’s my boyfriend.

Oh… what I meant about being vulnerable is more about opening up. I think a lot of great things, but usually keep them to myself. So, a while ago, I started telling him things I’d usually not say out loud. Then… he told me I only say these nice things after I’ve had a few drinks. So now, I’m saying them before I’ve had a couple drinks. He does know saying these things are hard for me so he has made it easier for me to do it.

LadyE, that’s so exciting! I think getting him the dog treats is a nice gesture. Yay to real initiative! Boo to hippie artist.