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August 5, 2019 at 10:49 am #849589
Holy… this girl (I say girl because she’s acting like a child) is a piece of work. I’m glad his parents are supportive. I would totally want to be a fly on the wall if BGM is there!! I can imagine how you’d both be stunned. I’m glad his parents are still supportive though. I have no advice that hasn’t already been said, but just know I think she’s being an immature brat, and you should totally just go to Santorini and show up pregnant to her wedding. <3
I’d change my wedding plans if I were you.
I said it here before when Veritek brought it up first and someone said I was judging her, but she seems exactly like the kind of person that cares more about the wedding than the marriage. But, she will be your family until death. So.VathenaAugust 5, 2019 at 12:04 pm #849608@Ale, maybe if the SIL were acting reasonably and in good faith, but she’s not. Don’t negotiate with terrorists. What Veritek wants to do (a small, casual brunch wedding, with a 3-guest overlap, 2 months before SIL’s wedding) is not unreasonable. SIL has now made it crystal clear that nothing short of Veritek’s wedding being delayed by an additional 6 months to a year would be acceptable. Why should Veritek and her fiance have to put their lives on hold to cater to an irrational person?
Veritek i’m so sorry. You responded so openly to the criticsm you received here regarding having your wedding two months before hers and then she can’t be reasonable about anything. Complained you stepped on her engagement by getting engaged SIX MONTHS after her! Apparently she is the type that wants the entire year(s) to herself.
Do you. Whatever you want. I’m also glad that you and fiance are going to get some premarital counseling and hopefully he’ll get the tools he needs to better respond to his family because i agree freezing up and making you respond to it all isn’t fair.
Miss MJAugust 5, 2019 at 12:28 pm #849616Yeah, this is totally unreasonable. Have the wedding you want, Ver, and don’t change one thing. She’s trying to see if she can run over you like she does her brother and parents. Put a stop to it now or it will never, ever stop. Honestly, it’s probably never going to stop, anyway. She’s likely going to be a bratty, pain in the ass, about everything. Distance and not giving a fuck are key. (And getting your fiancé on board, too.)
AllornoneAugust 5, 2019 at 1:09 pm #849625One, it sucks you have to go through this. you tried being reasonable, and she’s just being an entitled bridezilla brat.
Two, I kind of want to get married in Greece now. Hell, I wan to get engaged just to get married n Greece.
Three, more importantly, I really want BGM to attend your SIL’s wedding. I will be a part of the flash mob he proposes. I will also bring popcorn and the liquor of your choice.
August 5, 2019 at 1:12 pm #849627I really hope you do get into some counseling together soon. I hate to be that person, but I would not get married if he can’t or won’t stand up for you. That’s really the only way you’re going to get off the chopping block. His sister should not be confronting you or attacking you. He should be the first line of defense with his family. His parents apologizing to you by the car, and not in front of his sister is another warning sign in my mind. No one dares speak up in front of her. Clearly, she runs the family.
I think my phrase from now on whenever she’s brought up by him or his family is “I don’t negotiate with terrorists.”
I’ll fly anyone who wants to the flash mob Grecian wedding.
And I made an emergency therapy appointment for tomorrow for me, because my anxiety is going off the charts and I’ve put it off long enough. (Also my dog has been having seizures lately and between the terror in law and my baby being 12 and facing his canine mortality, I need a mental health day.)
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