DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Awww, he sounds very sweet and thoughtful, LadyE! Congratulations, K!
I’m sure I said it first a few months in and my husband pulled a Han Solo move and said, “I know.” All in good fun because it kind of perfectly exemplifies our dry repartee. He did say it back a minute later.
My husband said it about 3 months in and I cried! I’m so not a mushy type so I think we were both surprised but it felt right. LadyE it looks like your bloke is showing it by deed so I’m sure it’ll all go well when one of you throws it into the mix.
I said it to my ex after 8 months or so, on V-day to be a bit more romantic. He said it the same time. I think everyone is different in when they feel it, as some have suggested, it comes sooner for others, and later for others. I think if the other person is showing some serious signs of not only commitment, but caring and love in other ways (hello 5 love languages!) it is a good sign they will share the same feelings 🙂
Best of luck, and glad to hear things are going well @LadyE
yeah, I may have said it after three months, but I was feeling it way sooner (no way I was going to admit that out loud though). I was gone probably by the fourth date. But then, we had been friends for three years prior to going out, so I had a pretty good idea who he was already. But yeah, everyone has their own timeline. It definitely shouldn’t be rushed or said before it’s felt, when it’s right, it’s right.
@TheLadyE Agreed that he sounds really thoughtful. I personally LOVE when a partner notices the things you like and acts accordingly. Maybe he hasn’t said the words yet, but it seems like he’s showing you through actions at this point. My boyfriend does smaller stuff like that pretty often, so sometimes when he says he loves me, before saying it back, I say, “I know.” Because he shows me, and I love that.
One morning in maybe September, I was telling him how excited I was for fall, and asked, “Do you know what I can’t wait to have in cold weather?” I wasn’t actually looking for an answer, but he responded, “Yeah. Soup.” And he was right, I was thinking about how excited I was for soup. (Haha.) I asked how he knew, and he answered, “Because I know you.” And he does, and it’s so nice to have that in my life.
Update: I said it tonight as he was leaving my house and he said it back! <3
We love each other. I’m so happy. 🙂
Update: I said it tonight as he was leaving my house and he said it back! <3
We love each other. I’m so happy. 🙂
Congratulations K! Sounds like everything went well!
As of yesterday we are 5 months away from our wedding and taking engagement pictures this Sunday so that’s exciting!
LadyE – congrats to you too! MofV and I exchanged I love you’s almost 10 months into dating. I knew it sooner than that but I’m never the one to say it first and he isn’t either so we stubbornly were both waiting for the other one to say and we got drunk on Cinco De Mayo and both said it lol.
@Copa – we don’t speak but I didn’t have much of a relationship with her before all of this. MofV spoke to her for the first time in two months last week because she announced she is having TWO receptions after her Disney wedding and we needed to know the dates for those in order to not plan anything on those days.
Bottom line is his parents told us to proceed and don’t let her change our plans so that’s what were doing. We are having a small wedding with 45 people invited and she can either be happy for us or not come. His mom is going with us Sunday before pictures to meet the new coordinator at the winery and see the space and she’s very excited about it and that makes me happy. We can’t change his sister as a person and if everyone else is happy for us, she just has to get on board.
We also just got our friend to agree to be our officiant and hired a violin duo to play during the ceremony so things are getting exciting!
