DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Yay ktfran! It sounds like things are going really well.
And veritek, your weekend sounds amazing – minus the unexpected parental visit. Cooking dinner? Breakfast in bed? Sounds like boyfriend material. Hopefully you guys will be able to meet up again in the not too distant future. Yayyy!
And yeah, my friend’s fiance is kind of douchey. I get annoyed my friend doesn’t stand up for me, especially since she was sexually assaulted in the past as well.
Oh and random kind of creepy question….so when I was looking at the dick pic the guy sent me, I noticed something kind of odd. Would it be weird if I showed it to my doctor and asked “is this herpes”? Based on my not at all scientific googling, it doesn’t look like herpes, but there’s definitely some sort of noticeable cut or something. I was tested when we were together, and will be tested again when I go for a repeat pap next month. But I would still like a medical opinion because it would make me feel better. Or worse.
And that is why, you do not hook up with Albanian mobsters 13 years older than you that have a penchant for vodka and cocaine.
HURRAY, HURRAY FOR VER/TT FUN SEXY TIMES!!
I’m very happy for you too, TheladyEand ktfran! 🙂
And Kare, jeez, what an asshole. How do you not get that forcing someone into something intimate, even if it’s not penetration, is terrible?? How would he feel if a girl rimmed him without asking, and he couldn’t make her stop? Grr, that frustrates me on your behalf. Sorry you went through that.
oh man Kare, it certainly can’t hurt to get an opinion on that and I will hope it’s nothing serious.
And yes, Tinder Teacher is totally boyfriend material. Damn that 2.5 hour distance!
Sounds like great dates/weekends for you both, LadyE and Ver! And now I want lasagna 🙂
Kare, that’s fucking bullshit. And by “that” I mean your friend not sticking up for you. If that were one of my friends and her husband, and she didn’t have my back and tell him in no uncertain terms that kind of “joke” is not ok, I would seriously reconsider the friendship. History or no, that is just way over the line and the amount of disrespect your friend has for your boundaries on the topic – and yes, even if she isn’t making the joke, it doesn’t appear she is reigning in her fiance – is just disgusting.
Re: the dick pick, I don’t think I would personally show that to a doctor. Since you’re planning to get re-tested soon anyway, what would the point be?
Yeah I’m not thrilled about it. Everyone kind of thinks I overreacted, but it was a really scary thing. I was fucked up for years dealing with it. I have discussed it with my friend before, and she agrees his jokes are over the line. However, she would never stand up to him or call him out on it in front of his frends. With his friends, she tries really hard to be the “cool girl” that doesn’t complain. Which is why I typically don’t hang out with her.
Very good point – I’ll get retested anyways because it can’t hurt. Plus I’m doing blood work anyways. I would just like to know for my own curiosity.
Idk why everyone raves about your 20s…it hasn’t been anything super wonderful so far!
Seriously, your friend should be better to you. How does she not stop this shit? It’s potentially more traumatizing, or prolonging the trauma…and God, I would just be creeped the fuck out if my partner kept bringing this up to my friend who was assaulted.
I’m sorry, Kare. You deserve better!
That sounds really good Veritek!
Kare, I had fun in my 20s but life definitely got better around 30 when I started making good money, paid off all debt, and could travel, buy nice things, and build up savings. And even better when I finally ended a bad relationship in my later 30s. You have a lot of good years ahead of you.
Half of my twenties were bullshit. They got better.
You should call her fiancé out and her! I know you aren’t here looking for advice, but they don’t sound very friendly.
@veritek33 that sounds like a wicked weekend! So glad it went well 😀
I went out with an Italian once for a couple dates, he totally played it up and texted me sweet nothings in Italian, it was funny and cute at the time 😛
I won’t be able to see my FWB till next week unfortunately. He had to cancel our date last week due to work being crazy, he had a huge project at work to prepare for with his coworkers. And then he is gone to Florida all this week! And I suspect by the time he gets back next week I will be on my period and won’t be able to have sexy times. Oh the humanity! haha
I did call him out on Saturday. Everyone was kind of laughing, and I said “well I don’t find sexual assault funny, so can we drop it?”. Then everyone kind of look confused and said they didn’t consider period sex to be sexual assault. I replied “I consider someone holding me down and forcing me to do something against my will to be sexual assault”. Everyone awkwardly chuckled then my friend changed the subject. It just sucks because it was a traumatic experience that for a long time I kind of buried because I didn’t think it “counted” as an assault and felt ashamed about the whole thing.
Sorry to completely derail the thread to such a depressing topic! I’m glad people had good experiences this weekend though. It’s so nice to see everyone going out with guys who value their time and make known they are interested.
