DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I appreciate everyone’s advice. I’ll just wait for tomorrow night and do what feels right in the moment.
Good luck veritek! I feel like i could somewhat relate to your dating stories, i’m pretty guarded myself. Trying to be better about letting people in and up my confidence level. Work in progress lol : )
Oh, I’m 100% guarded. I’m trying out being less so right now with *J. The person I’m going on a 4th date in 1.5 weeks with tomorrow. Yay!
So… I have a first date tonight with a guy I met in meatspace (honestly it’s been years since I met a date anywhere but online), and I’m kind of nervous and excited but also kind of apprehensive because he seems a little too eager and excited to see me.
But we’re going to a jazz bar, and that should be fun, and I really could use some fun flirty times.@Veritek I’ve kinda just been lurking on this thread for the most part, but I think you should definitely just go for it and kiss the guy tomorrow night. Especially if you know you give off mixed signals, he could be as confused as you are. The worst that could happen is that it’s not reciprocated and then you have your answer. Either way, have fun!
@veritek, if you really want to put it out there that you would like him to kiss you. You should text him tonight, “Hey I think you should kiss me after our date tomorrow night.” I had woman I went on a date with text me that before our second or third date because I hadn’t picked up the signals on date one. I’ve also received other iterations of that text other times due to my lack of picking up signals and fears of being presumptuous. It takes a little of the nerves out for him, because he knows you want it and also steers the tone of everything to a little more flirty. Just an idea anyway.
I had a crazy thought- honesty. Maybe tomorrow night during the conversation and ice cream I can just tell him “hey sorry I left early last time I was having a really good time but I had to get up early and I wasn’t really sure whether you wanted me to come in or if I was overstaying my welcome .” I mean, is honesty a bad thing in this situation?
I wouldn’t say that personally. Because if he is on the fence about things, it would probabaly catch him off guard. I say just try to have a relaxing fun date and see if he wants to go hang out at your place since it’s close to the ice cream parlor. If he doesn’t want alone time, that might be a sign the chemistry is off.
I say “relax”, but I know if I was in your situation I’d ended up drunk texting him something alomg the lines of “are you ever going to kiss me or what?” Which is why I’m on a dating hiatus haha.
Thank you guys for the support! I don’t mind being single, but I miss not having someone to to try new things with. I miss just going to happy hours every once in awhile or something like that. Most of my coworkers go out, but I’m not invited since I dumped one of them. You figure people would get past me “breaking his heart” since he’s already engaged to someone else, but whatever.
@Cleopatra_30: Oh boy, life update! Haha. I don’t want to totally derail the dating conversation but essentially life has been cuh-raaaaazy and absolutely nuts. Wedding planning has been going pretty well…honestly everyone says “wedding planning is SO FUN”, but making a crap ton of decisions for this one day has been pretty exhausting to be honest. At the end of the day I’ll be marrying a phenomenal guy and that’s ultimately what matters, but it’s been stressful and right now with less than 4 weeks to go it is very much crunch time. Navy Guy has been so so SO wonderful through the whole process. Seriously couldn’t have asked for a better guy…he has been a stable force when things have been anything but stable! We are both ready to be done making decisions about table linens and other things that don’t matter. I’m emotionally ready for the day, but there are a TON of details that we need to make decisions on that we don’t necessarily care about if that makes sense? Like I could care less what shade of white the table linens are. Eggshell, ivory, white…it all looks the same after a while.
In a totally unexpected turn of events I also have a new job for next year. It is hard to explain but my position was downsized considerably and there was a lot of drama at my last job…and this one literally fell into my lap completely by surprise right after I found out about me learning about the downsize. I literally heard about the new job, sent my resume and cover letter, interviewed, and was given an offer within a week. Not to mention this will be a better fit for me, and more stable! Yet, I was not expecting to start a new job within weeks of getting married, so that part has been insanely stressful. I’m trying to get all my planning/prep work done now before the school year starts, so that of course has been taking up a crap load of time too.
Yeah. Lots going on. Tons of plates spinning. Thus, the margarita the size of my head last weekend. One day at a time!
(Did not mean to thread jack. Carry on with the dating conversation. 🙂 )
