DW Community Catch-up Thread
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@ver, I think you should postpone regardless. Even if MO is allowing bigger events in the fall, do you really want to risk it?
I definitely wouldn’t go.
One of my friend’s weddings is postponed indefinitely because they want everyone there. Another friends reception-like 40th is also postponed until at least next June if not longer.
I’m with Fyodor in this one. It sucks. But this situation sucks.
The husband and I already discussed holidays. We are supposed to do my parents for Thanksgiving this year. My mom always hosts my dad’s side of the fam. There are like 40 people. I told her they’ll have to choose between us or them. We will only go if it’s immediate family.
Woah, you’re planning a reception for late fall of THIS year? Not a good idea. Wait until after the pandemic has passed, not when it’s predicted to be worse than ever. Missouri is in really bad shape right now. I wouldn’t send my kids to freakin’ soccer practice in the park let alone invite older family members to a gathering of 80 people. I know it truly sucks to have not yet been able to celebrate with your nearest and dearest but you will be so much more disappointed and frustrated when you have to cancel this reception or – much worse! – potentially get people sick from a deadly virus that’s raging through your state. Please wait. It will be a much, much happier affair when you can celebrate your nuptials AND surviving the end of this fucking pandemic.
All of this sucks. All of it. Not just postponed weddings and cancelled milestone birthday parties. Fyodor’s mom died and that’s about the worst thing ever. But beyond deaths, we ALL have heartbreaking things we’re dealing with. My daughter has to do kindergarten online. How the fuck is that going to work? I haven’t seen my parents – my kids’ only living grandparents- in six months and won’t be able to see them until they’re vaccinated because they are very high risk. I could go on and on. A postponed wedding blows, but it all fucking blows. All of it blows.
And my high risk parents are in Missouri and I am nervous for them and follow the news closely which is why I know what bad shape the state is in. It’s doing worse than almost every other state in the country. Lay low!
Not to belabor the point but this just happened:
“Following a meeting with Gov. Mike Parson, Dr. Deborah Birx told reporters that every Missourian needs to taking precautions right now, a big ask in a state with uneven interest despite rising case numbers.
“We need every American and everybody in Missouri to be wearing a mask and socially distancing,” she said. “We’re asking every citizen to not have large gatherings in their backyard until we have an effective vaccine, to really curtail those gatherings when you bring people together.”
Honestly, I am stunned – sort of? maybe disappointed is a better word – that universities in Missouri are re-opening for in-person classes with students in dorms. My alma mater in Springfield already has well over 100 cases and classes only started Monday. I am very familiar with the culture of Missourians and I am 100% certain that social distancing and mask-wearing is resisted by a large percentage of the population. With tens of thousands of young people congregating in classes and on campuses and mingling throughout their various communities, and then going home on the weekends, visiting their parents and grandparents and mingling in their home communities, it’s looking to be a not great fall ahead.
The move to open colleges on campus was among the most cynical and irresponsible things I’ve seen during a cynical and irresponsible time. There’s just not any way you can have tens of thousands of students on campus and reliably control a highly contagious disease. Even so, it’s been surprising to me how quickly everything went to crap at places like notre dame and UNC.
In other news, I have not been watching the convention but I found the roll call oddly affecting, with all the delegates on location in their home states . I feel like our world has been shrunk so much by Trump and the pandemic that it was great seeing the US in its varied corny grandeur getting highlighted. You can see the whole video here.
@Wendy, universities opened here too and since Monday they are all now shutting back down because there have been outbreaks of cases. How did they not see that coming? The Triangle in NC where I live has NC State, Duke, and UNC-CH, and 2/3 have already had more than 100 cases and are shuttering the students off campus. My boyfriend lives about two streets over from one of them (UNC) and it makes me extremely nervous because Chapel Hill is not a big town. At this point he’s more at risk than I am when doing things like grocery shopping or getting gas because they brought the damn students back to campus and are now putting them in hotels to ride out the virus. It baffles me as to why they would let students return this soon.
To bring it back to dating…I guess more mask-wearing and distancing for us for the foreseeable future.
I think they wanted to pretend like they were going to be open, collect everyone’s money, and then didn’t care what happened after that.
In states like NH or VT, campuses can open safely, but obviously not in states with high positivity.
My crazy little cousin is starting college in MO, I need to ask what’s happening with that.
Okay here’s the deal so we can all calm down.
I asked if I can cancel and I was told no. We made the decision to hold the reception less than a week after the original cancelled wedding and put down the money for it.
When I asked over a month ago if I could postpone until next year I was told that unless the state shuts down or restricts events, I have to go through with this event or lose multi thousands of dollars. I cannot afford to just throw that money away. I haven’t planned a damn thing for this event because I don’t have confidence that it’s actually going to happen – but I’m between a rock and hard place here you see?
I don’t feel like I have a lot of choice right now because it’s either throw away thousands of dollars or hire an attorney to try to get out of the contract and lose more money.
I’m not stupid. I know we are in a pandemic. I’m just trying to do the best I can with a real shitty situation here.
I have asked more than once to postpone until March of next year and I have been told a flat no. I’m sorry. I’m not irresponsible. I’m just dealing with the hand we’ve been dealt and I don’t know what else to do.
Waiting to see how my alma mater’s planning goes. They’re starting off with the first two weeks of classes virtual to let things settle in.. it’s smaller so they have a chance (and majority are not commuter.. and asking/requiring only as-needed venturing off campus).
