DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Oh my god I would kill to have an eyebrow problem. I never had much to start with and then they got burned off when I was 14. Drawing them on every day I want to put on makeup is driving me crazy because what did come back didn’t even regrow evenly. My new year resolution is to seriously look into microblading.
Oo this is fun! I’ll have to check out the elf recommendation. I need something “cheap” for my purse/whatever days
I was a 00’s super thin eyebrow and successfully spent most of college growing them back out.
Foundation: I love love love Nars natural radiant. Very light although full coverage
Concealer: I’ll use nars but lately the maybelline instant rewind erasure.. also Clinique makes a great liquid concealer.
Bronzer/contour: smashbox contour kit
Blush and highlighter: nars hot sand/orgasm.
Eyebrows: I’ve used benefit stuff in the past, but honestly the PiXI brand at target has a great gel/liner combo.
Mascara: also used to use the orange tube from cover girl, but it ruined my contacts. So now I use maybelline lash sensation. The dior stuff is great but just not worth it.
Eyeliner: I have a wAterproof nars pencil, but typically use smashbox in Aubergine
Eyeshadow:love the tarte palettes too! Nars has some good ones as well
Oh, and I’m a Vaseline believer for lips. And for elbows, hands, feet, etc.
In the middle of the night while nursing, I’ve been watching Mixed Makeup Facebook videos on skincare, kinda fun.
If anyone wants a covid Disney wedding update: Disney is now offering couples who had weddings planned for 2020/2021 full refunds – no strings attached. Apparently they will not be doing “restriction free” weddings until mid 2022 at the earliest – so all weddings currently happening have no buffet, plastic cutlery, mask requirements, social distancing requirements, etc.
So this means the SIL has a choice to recoup all her money and just get married locally OR wait until mid 2022 and hope they can have a restriction free wedding then. Would anyone care to make bets on what her choice will be?
Also MofV and I assembled Ikea furniture for Baby of Veritek this weekend and our marriage is still in tact. I call that a victory.
I vote she opts to have the wedding with restrictions because she can’t possibly wait or give up her weird-ass Disney dreams. And then complains about every moment for all the years – even after the divorce.
Congrats on not killing one another by shoving left over hardware up each other’s noses.
Oooh, has SIL decided yet? Or is she too busy crying and complaining to make a decision. I don’t think she’d get married locally — Disney or bust — but no feelings about whether she’d deal with the restrictions or push the wedding out another year or longer.
I went to a pretty informal virtual baby shower over the weekend. It was nice to “see” people but man am I over virtual hangouts. I don’t think I can do as many virtual hangouts as I did last year even though my winter blues are kicking in hard.
So out of curiosity, to those who moved in together pre-marriage but didn’t combine finances, how did you handle bills? Right now we’re saving receipts and settling up at the end of every month, but feels like there’s gotta be an easier, more efficient way. We’ve been talking about opening a joint checking account where we both deposit an agreed upon amounts of money once or maybe twice/month and then we can use the card to pay for the things we split equally, like groceries, but we haven’t done that yet. Even if we get married, I don’t know that we’d fully combine finances… I could see us having yours, mine, and ours accounts still. But trying to think if there’s anything I’m overlooking that would make a joint account too risky pre-marriage.
@Copa – My money is on she keeps putting it off so she can have the fantasy wedding the way she wants it – despite the parents strongly urging her to take the money and move on.
As for finances – when MofV moved in 2 years ago before we were engaged, we actually opened a joint account separate from our individual checking accounts. Each month when I did the bills I would let him know his half and he could put that into the joint account and I would pay all the bills. We have a google doc with all our expenses and bills so he can look at it any time and see where the money has gone, etc. Both of our parents have filed bankruptcy and had serious marriage problems over money, so we went into this wanting full transparency with bills, goals, etc.
Even after marriage we haven’t combined everything. We stick to the google doc and joint account for bills. We each have a savings account – it works for us. Some couples might not like this set up but we literally never fight about money and our bills are always covered and there’s money in savings, so it works for us.
We moved in together post-engagement. We still don’t have a joint anything. I’m probably not a good example because we’re not an “evens stevens” kind of couple. I do give him a set amount every month. Some goes towards bills/mortgage. A good portion of it goes towards our kitchen/fireplace remodel, which we’re budgeting $80k.
So, besides what I send monthly, he pays for most of our vacations and dinners out. I pay for all of our groceries and our household items like cleaning supplies, soap, etc. After I buy that stuff, whatever I have leftover is what I have for the month to spend or save. For instance, I sent more $ to the local food bank yesterday.
He manages our finances. His parent’s finances. And his uncle’s finances. He’s good with money. I was not. I let him do his thing and we check in every couple of months to see if I need to add more to what I send monthly or change something up. Oh, he also makes, well it isn’t double, but quite a bit more than me.
It works for us.
I will say, because we’re not traveling or going out at all right now, we’ve been able to save quite this last year.
EDT: Oh, we also never fight about money.
I handle the saving and investing accounts (some are separate and some joint but they’re all visible under my dashboard). He pays some bills and I pay some bills. We do one settle-up at the end of each month that takes us 10 minutes each.
The reason that’s probably so quick & easy is I track all my spending in a budget planner, and he keeps his receipts.
It’s very easy and smooth. No special reason we don’t have a joint checking account, just never got around to it and we both had all our own shit already set up.
We moved in well before engagement, the house and bills were in my husband’s name as he’d already been living there so we’ve kept it that way because it’s easier to transfer than set up a new account. With that in mind I give him a set amount each month to cover rent and recurring set expenses like insurance and car leasing then we split bills like electricity when they come in. It’s set up as an automatic deduction so I don’t have to think about it. We have always played pretty fast and loose with things like groceries though, we just kind of work on a ‘you got it last time I’ll get it this time’ or ‘I’m a bit short today can you get it?’ rather than spend ages dickering over who owes for what. We’ve never had a joint account but we’re very transparent about spending and savings and we’re both happy with where we’re at with it.
For me the most important thing is a joint attitude to finances, if you have that it tends to matter less which account the money is coming from.
Over the weekend we found out that one of BG’s childhood best friends, who was diagnosed with colon cancer maybe 4-5 years ago, is out of medical options. He went in for some scans and the doctors told him they think it’s time for him to look into hospice, that he could do another round of chemo, but they don’t think it will prolong his life and certainly won’t make his remaining time better quality. I’m pretty devastated and OMG did my heart hurt watching BG cry about the news. I only met him a few times, but he’s a good guy. Pretty awkward, great heart. It’s so fucking unfair that he’s spent the last year almost entirely alone (he’s single and high risk), and probably will not live to see life return to semi-normal. I’m not sure how his friend feels about this, but I told BG I’d not leave the house to go anywhere (by which I mean the grocery store since that’s basically the only place I go) except walk the dog so that they can safely see each other in person soon.
That’s awful. You guys are too young for this shit. My husband turned 50 this year, and so many of his friends have died recently. 3 from heart attacks. And his good friend’s wife just passed a couple of weeks ago from cancer. My husband is on a telehealth appointment right now with a cardiologist. He has no known issues but neither did the (seemingly fit and healthy) guys who died. Ugh. I’m sorry.
