DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I think the site looks great and there’s nothing I can think of that feels like it’s missing. Exciting about the uptick in traffic, too! I really appreciate this community.
So I was never a summer camp kid. I was in fact the kid who eventually cried at sleepovers and ended up going home until I was probably six or seven. Even after I was fine with spending the night at a friend’s house, I know I’d have balked at the idea of going away for two weeks even in middle school. But then as things played out for my family, we were living overseas for awhile and our local international school in one city was so tiny and the instruction not-so-great that I ended up boarding at a school in a different city for a couple years at 13. One of my boyfriend’s nieces and I have the same birthday, she turned 13 this year and even though it’s been fun watching her turn into a young adult, I had a moment of hyper awareness on our birthday realizing how young it still is to be living away from home. I think I’d be a wreck if I were a parent and my kid was away from home for the first time. A friend told me a few weeks ago, when her oldest went away to camp for a week, that her daughter used her Garmin one night (I guess there was no way to call?) to tell her she was crying and miserable, and it made ME want to cry. And it’s not even my kid!
That’s really cool there’s more traffic Wendy! I sign on with my phone. When I hit login at the top it takes me to the registration page before I hit the login button again. I know some sites do this but it’s a little counterintuitive!
I started wearing sleeveless tops (shells) around the office. If I’m not seeing clients I sometimes wear jeans. It is strange that someone interpreted business casual as yoga pants!
My big conundrum is what to wear to networking picnics per se. Like you don’t want to be overdressed but also not wear short shorts? Idk.
My cousin’s kid is 17 and her IG scares me even though I know we (well my friends) took those kind of pictures in high school! And I don’t really know how I would want to guide a hypothetical daughter with dressing in terms of not slut shaming but still being “appropriate”?
Tonight’s my last chance to try and get Taylor Swift tickets. Send good vibes please!!
I need to catch up on like two years of posts, but I wanted to drop in and see the new site! It looks good! I’ll catch up now, and I hope you’re all doing well!
Hi Veritek! Hope you’re doing well. Your thread got renamed a couple months ago, as you can see. 🙂
Whelp, for the very first time since I got divorced (and if I’m being honestly, about the 3rd or 4th time in my life), I got asked out on a date. I’m really not looking to date right now (I’m still processing a lot) so I’m trying to find the nicest way to say “I’d love to get to know you better as friends, but please don’t expect to date me.”
This is a new problem and I guess I sort of feel flattered about it but mostly I’m worried that I accidentally led someone on.
Wish me luck in this new world.
Hey, that’s gotta feel very flattering, BM! Don’t worry too much about accidentally leading anyone on. You are a thoughtful, kind person and if someone misinterprets that for something you don’t intend, they’ll figure it out and deal with it. I think being recently divorced and not ready yet to date is a perfect excuse (because it’s true!) to avoid anything more than platonic. You’ll know when you’re ready for more. I’m excited for you!
I like the new site and I’m glad the ‘recent comments’ part is on the agenda, that often would show up some interesting late additions.
As far as young grandparents, my parents were only in their early 40s when my brother had his oldest. They had my bro pretty young and he became a dad at 23. I think my grandparents were fairly similar. My nan just passed away last week and she was nearly 96, my oldest cousin just had her 50th. Thanks to all the early kids my nan comfortably made it to a great great grandparent of five, which is wild.
@BM – agree with Wendy, take the flattery, leave behind any nonsense about leading anyone on. Continue to be friendly. Friendly is good.
BM – what Wendy and Lis said. Be your friendly self! I think an honest “I’m not dating right now, but would like to hang out sometime” or whatever feels comfortable for you to say is fine. Some people will be receptive. Some won’t. That’s not on you, at all. Good luck!! Your deserve some joy in your life and I hope you’re finding it.
We joke with my sister, the one w/ the 18 yr old, that she could totally have a “second family” if she wanted. She’s only 37. Or she could be a grandma, but I’m 100% certain the niece isn’t interested in early motherhood. I guess I could have a first family. But between my being on the Mirena and the husband finally getting a vasectomy last summer, I’m positive that won’t happen.
@hfantods I’d wear a dress to a networking picnic. Good luck with the TSwift tickets. I think I became a late in life Swiftie this summer and am now sad I didn’t even try to get Eras Tour tickets.
My boyfriend’s oldest niece is 17, turning 18 next spring. She’s a HS senior. I’ve heard my boyfriend’s bro and SIL talk about her IG and was briefly shown a couple pics once, and they slammed their sister’s parenting over that. Short/tight dress and swimsuit pics with her friends. And IDK. I doubt the niece is doing anything worse than what her peers are doing, or that any other generation’s teens did. She just needs to be smart about social media. I was in, I think, the first incoming college freshman class to have FB when it was still very new and exclusive to certain schools, so I feel like it’s the folks my age who made ALL the mistakes with it. One of my college roommates almost had an internship offer rescinded over something she put online.
@BM Direct but polite is always appreciated in dating. “I’m flattered, but I’m still processing my divorce and not in a space to be dating right now. I’d love to get to know you as a friend if you are interested.”
@Ver Hi! You’re like a guest star among us. Lots of sunscreen talk in the years that you missed. 😛
@Wendy
The new site really has a nice presentation that draws you in much more than the old site. I can only imagine the learning curve for the new platform and the stress that comes with that. I hope that it soon gets to be fun for you to be adding tweaks after the challenge of rebuilding the foundation.I immediately liked the rotating older topics on the home page; when I first saw that I thought it would hook new visitors (and be fun for some of us long-timers). The only thing I was missing was the recent comments/replies; but it looks like that is coming together.
Thanks for all of your efforts to build this community.
Youth fashion – tiny dresses are nothing new. Look at the hems of the dresses / skirts from the 60’s and 80’s. They are SHORT. Or the 90’s when women were encouraged to wear dresses that looked like slips you’d wear under a dress. Let’s not forget the 00’s when naked hip bones were all the rage not to mention thong underwear designed to be exposed. Every era has it’s “they’ve gone too far!” fashion.
