DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Did they know you had an initial interview? I think they’d want to get started on the next interviews if you are doing a second interview with Company 2. However probably once you hear from Company 2 after the in person interview, Company 1 should be reaching out. So waiting would be fine.
I found out got an interview for a job I applied to about 4 weeks ago. At one point this was my “dream job”. I think I need some interview prep because my last few interviews (work and volunteer) haven’t planned out.
Double post. They asked for employment references including one manager in the last three years but I have worked at the same place and reported to the same person for the last nine years. I do have a couple references from before. Any advice on references/how you’d handle this?
Interviewing is definitely a skill. In the past year or so, I’ve made it to the panel or final round of interviews maybe 5-6 times… there were more interviews if you count HR screening interviews or shorter (30-45 min) calls with hiring managers. I’ve become significantly more comfortable interviewing during this time. You can practice with a friend or your husband, but I do tell myself going into interviews that if it doesn’t lead to a job, it’s interview experience. Being an interviewer is also a skill and plenty of people are not particularly good at it.
I think references from past jobs are okay. I’ve been at my company for 7+ years. I’ve yet to make it to the references stage, but I have told a former supervisor (from 10 years ago!) and a former coworker who supervised my work (though not my direct supervisor) at my last company that I am looking. They’re both ready. I’d need at least one more. My first boss at this organization retired six or so years ago and before he left, he said he’d be happy to give me a reference. I’ve not told him I’m looking since he and my current boss are still pals. I trust him not to say anything but prefer not to mention it until I have to. I have a few former coworkers who I worked with at this job who moved on to new roles in the past couple of years that I’d also feel comfortable asking.
Thanks. They’re going to accept people I worked with (not necessarily reported to).
In other fun-ish news, we hired a contractor to do our ensuite. They started this week. This is our first big job in our house. Excited to see how it turns out!
Monday’s interview felt so promising. HR reached out to ask me how it went/what I thought and told me that the team had great things to say about me, which is making me feel cautiously optimistic. In April, a hiring manager elsewhere did/said some things that made me feel optimistic in a similar way, and then I was not the chosen candidate… which was fairly disappointing. So I’ve told myself to stay neutral moving forward unless I get a solid offer somewhere. This is the first experience I’ve ever had with HR checking in here and there to see if I have any questions or concerns, or ask what I thought.
Anyway, hope all of you have some fun in store for you this weekend.
That’s so exciting, copa! Sending good vibes.
I’ve been asked for a second interview this week. I’m still nervous but it does feel good to get a second interview. I’m also getting emotional about potentially leaving my current job as I’ve been here for so long. Right now I know I need to focus on the next step. Obviously there’s still more to go.
I did end up getting invited back for round three and we’re sorting out the details now. I met two people at the recent on-site interview. The third and final interview will be meeting the full team of (I think) eight, so I’m not sure if that’d be one or two panels or a series of shorter small group interviews. I’ve experienced both in the past. It’s not a done deal until it is but I’ve experienced every emotion around potentially leaving my job multiple times over the past year, ha.
Good luck with your interview, @hfantods. One step at a time and you assess them, too.
So good news: A year and a half post divorce, I went on my first small, low-key coffee date this past weekend! It went well, conversation was fun and easy and at least for myself the attraction is there.
The bad news: I still don’t feel like I can actually “put myself out there”. I don’t know how to follow things up, flirt properly, or how to navigate this world. I moved way too quickly in my past and ended up married and miserable and I’m so scared of that happening again I’m afraid to actually like anyone.
Stuff to work on in therapy, I guess.
Did either of you text the other one to say you had a nice time and would they like to go for dinner?
My friend just bullied me in to doing it! Fingers crossed for a positive response.
When you say it like that it seems obvious 😀
That sounds great, BM! I’m sure today’s dating scene must be jarring to someone who was married and out of the game for awhile. You’ll get the hang of it. And it’s wonderful that you seem self-aware and are working on yourself in therapy. Good humor and banter make for good dates, IMO. Like Kate said, if you had a good time and would go out with her again, you text to say as much. As a woman, any time the man paid for a date, it felt kinda nonnegotiable to be the one to reach out first when I felt that way, but often the men who were very interested in going out again would text me before I even got home.
I also have good news. I accepted a job offer. Finally. I’ve been looking, albeit somewhat casually, for about a year and a half. I started taking anti-depressants for the first time a few months ago… I think the lack of stimulation at my job + low morale contributed to the state I got to where that felt like the right choice for me. I’m nervous to leave after spending so long at one company, but hopeful that the move will be a positive one.
