Can’t forget my ex – even though I know we need to be apart
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Thanks everyone. I need this kick in the butt to remind myself of the facts. I get swept up in my feelings and the desire for that strong connection. But I know I walked away for a reason.
I dated a guy like this. Block him everywhere. Even *if* he’s not as bad as his ex says he was, his behavior in absence of that is still pretty awful – for a supposedly loving partner. He’s wasted a year of your life, don’t let him waste more.
He’s blocked where I can block him right now so it helps but this recent contact was like him slithering back in to my mind
LW, I think you’d benefit from speaking to a therapist about this. It can really help understand what’s driving your own behavior and give you the tools to cope and move forward.
It takes time, consistently blocking and not engaging, taking care of yourself, and meeting other guys.
Again, exactly what @kate said. Time. Block. Don’t respond. Date. Rinse. Repeat.
I dated a master manipulator another lifetime ago. We ended it. But I didn’t block him from everything. I still wanted to think the best of him and/or didn’t want to be “mean”, I dunno. Occasionally he’d reach out and I’d spiral for a few days. The first couple of years, I’d respond and then feel like shit after. Finally, I cut it off and I felt so, so free. Don’t do what I did. You’ll be happier. I promise.
