Fiancée no longer wants to get married
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Also, I’ve had a sixth sense through the internet, since at least 2004, lol. It’s how I got this job.
Wow, fyodor, tell me how you really feel. Jeez.
In your pants feelings…is not an offensive term or comment at all. It wasn’t when I said it, and it still isn’t. Is it belittling? It can be. It can also just be a way to describe sexual attraction in a pretty dumb way.
Yes, I used it, and in a belittling way that time because the man I was speaking to was claiming to have some holier than thou “I know better than she” relationship with a young woman in his parochial studies or clergy. It was whydoweexist? and his misogynistic desire to steer his student away from the man she liked because he wanted her…because he was sexually attracted to her. I called out his sexism, but in a way you didn’t like? That’s funny, because I thought his sexism was the offensive part.
I don’t have to treat sexist men with my best polite manners, Fyodor.
You are seriously scolding me for my behavior and me being offensive to commenters on this site? After how many years with Mark and you never said a word? It’s laughable to me. Should we scour the comments for all the times you stood up to Mark and defended the offended? Just kidding, but it’s a high bar you set just for me only?
I’m most offended and frankly always shocked that you and Ron and most of the menfolk (not all) generally still just seem to fall right in line with TheMan’sView no matter how incredibly unrealistic and FANCIFUL the storyline is or how absolutely outrageous it is. Like this time.
Yeah, I’ve been with Wendy and Kate and advice sites for decades. This letter is bullshit, and I’m sorry if you can’t see that. This is not the full story. I’m sorry if I’ve mocked you all and offended you so many times. I just try to give the best advice I can most of the time. It’s not always great, it’s not always bad but it is written with good intentions generally. I don’t come into the site to pick on people and I’m sad that’s the impression I give. I genuinely like you all and think of you collectively as my internet buddies.
I haven’t totally followed who’s allegedly mocking whom, but Fyodor, if you’re saying Anonymousse mocked you, that is some bs when you’re regularly jumping onto someone’s post who’s genuinely upset, to make a dad joke.
I think whenever someone responds point by point to nearly every single person telling them why they are wrong- in this case, Wendy, Kate and Me…you are in a form, internet ripping them to shreds. You put words in my mouth and characterized my personal comments in this thread in a very different way. For instance, throughout my comments I always pointed to that I don’t know him, I don’t know the full story. You said I was calling him an unfit parent. I never did. I was telling him to talk to her. And you told me I was demanding perfect equanimity blah blah she’s has Stage 4 and a baby! I mean, if having made a human while she’s dying isn’t a time you get to demand SPECIAL treatment, I don’t know when is.
No I said he was mocking me and he said he wasn’t, but that I mock.
I’m fine, it’s all good with me. I’m surprised and sorry this got out of hand.
It’s fine, everyone here feels strongly about their position. Nobody needs to feel bad or be offended.
I do not think that responding point by point at this stage is going to help, so I will say that I do not think that you @anonymousse or anyone else generally acts offensively or mocks people. I was trying to make the point that we often have strident or sharp disagreements on these forums and I don’t think that what I wrote or the way I participated in this thread was inconsistent with that or out of bounds with the general tenor of discussion.
You obviously feel otherwise and that my comments were out of bounds and I think that my arguing with you further is going to accomplish anything. I am not going to apologize for anything I’ve written here but I like and respect the people here and I am sorry that I have antagonized and offended you. You may consider that to be a bullshit non-apology but it’s all I got.
Well then I retract my apology. Why should I be overly courteous if you have nothing to apologize for? I guess I don’t either.
Reread this thread dude. You were way, way overly harsh and rude to me.
“I’m not going to apologize for what I’ve said……you may consider that a bs apology…”
I’m sorry, but what? So it’s not an apology or it is but (I’m a bitch so) I’ll consider it bullshit? Seriously, wtf is going on fyodor? You don’t sound civil just by repeating the word civil and discourse a lot.
Maybe you just had a really bad weekend, I don’t know. This is not the normal tenor. This is not the way you have ever reacted to me. Yo7 can keep saying it is, but it is not. Sorry, I asked you to do the zoom.
