From a LW:

” So I have a boyfriend and we’ve been together for about 5 months now. Actually, it’s our second time getting together and both times have been long distance. The last time we were together, we met up only once. Fast forward to a couple of months later, he asked me out again and I told him a couple of issues I had the last time including how we almost have met up and every time I asked us to go somewhere together, he was always busy. He apologized and said he was just really busy with school and promised to do better.

Now fast forward to another few months later, we began talking again and he asked me out again. This time, I realized I wasn’t completely over him yet so I said yes. It was also long distance though cause we school in different cities (in the same country) but I had no problem with it since I’m used to long distance anyways.

Now the problem is, when I was at school, he would talk about how he missed me and all. How he hated the distance and all of that and once I made a joke about leaving school for just the weekend and his exact words were “though I want you bad, I don’t want to be selfish.” I ended up dismissing it anyways cause coming home would actually be a little complicated too.

However, over a month ago, I returned home(we live in the same city) and not even for once, has he asked us to meet up. A couple of weeks ago, we met up and it was because I was in his area and I told him so he decided to show up and after that day, that was it. He didn’t mention us meeting again or till now, has not made even a single plan for us to meet up.
The thing is, he can be really sweet when we’re texting. He tells me he loves me a lot and looks at my pictures a lot and comments on how it makes him smile. But a part of me keeps on wondering why he never talks about us meeting up.
I’ve tried to be understanding cause he gets really busy with school but I don’t think it’s too much to want to see your gf knowing once she leaves for school again, you won’t have the opportunity to see her again. I don’t want to bring it up because it would feel like I am the one asking for it and I want him to see me simply because he wants to not because I’m asking him to. I do understand he’s still a student so his finances might not be buoyant enough for him to take me on a fancy date or whatever but I’m not even asking for that. We could just meet up and just talk. I just want him to bring it up but he genuinely doesn’t seem to be interested in doing that and instead just tells me he loves me and misses me without any actual action.

Note: On my birthday, he didn’t give me anything and I was a bit pissed about it. I brought it up and he apologized and said he would make it up to me when I came around. Though I told him not to bother, I think any guy should know better than to actually “not bother”. And now that I’ve been around for almost two months now, nothing is going on.

By the way, he’s really a good person. I’m just wondering if he’s truly in love with me or is just attracted/attached to me. Cause I don’t think it makes sense to be with someone and not want to see the person despite the fact that you live in the same city. (We’ve been together for almost 5 months now and met only once).”