What exactly is wrong about this story from my childhood?
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Yeah, agreed. No one likes someone who brags. Most people don’t have to walk around telling people how great they are. That’s actually kind of a red flag for me. If you’re a good guy, people around you know that. Humble-bragging doesn’t go over well, either.
Whatever you actually think about this story, Hunter- you know it’s not going over well, so that should be your cue to stop talking about it.
Many people are genuinely skeeved out when males demand respect or admiration (or flirty interest) because they did something nice for a girl or woman.
To be fair, I don’t think this sounds like Hunter, but a lot of women are afraid of this guy:
Ohh reddit telling it like it is…
My thoughts, although many have been shared and are pretty much on point for the conversation. I personally don’t see this event as sexist, in its simplest terms you helped a classmate out from being bullied and or possible further injured by the bullies. Great story. However, the way you outlined the story with the exaggerations and added emphasis on the ‘crowd cheering,’ and ‘back slapping,’ makes me cringe and is probably what made people in your class also cringe. You added extra details that weren’t necessary and it created an image of you wanting validation for your actions, coming off with a ‘nice guy, vibe. That you talk about being a great guy, but only to get positive reinforcement, not because you were being genuine and just doing what is morally right and just. Even if that was the case with the story, your presentation made it sound otherwise.
Point is, no it wasn’t a sexist action, any decent human being should have stepped in, and or gotten a teacher to come and break it up. Instead you took some liberties and added details that made you come off like a cringe worthy ‘nice guy.’
he said he didn’t get as much negativity on reddit. I found them more honest and to the point. And considering most of the comments were doubting the story and the reason it was even posted made it low on the scale of the advice thread. We have taken up 20 pages of comments and dialogue, so there has been more ground for dialogue and unfortunately negativity than on that particular reddit thread.
